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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 10:01 pm AEST

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sometimes we have to do something for ourselves @Sans911 helping others is great but it doesnt often feel the same as having a paid job.
unfortunatly i feel the same, i dont know how much longer ill be working either at this rate.

i use to approach some of the smaller bussinesses with only one staff member. sometimes a second staff member isnt thought of till ots offerred. disability is screaming for workers esp in nsw if you want to fly over here! you could even use your nursing skills on Mable. not sure if youve heard of that?

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Sans911Senior Contributor21 July 2022, 10:30 pm AEST

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Yes exactly @outlander. You said that so well. I don't want to disability support work. Yes, aware of Mable. I'm still looking at self-employment options. Just everything takes time to happen

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 10:34 pm AEST

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yeah i dont want to do this job much anymore either @Sans911 wanted out before but i dont have really much choice now.

what sort of stuff are you looking into? i have or well i did have my own bussiness. getting an ABN is easy and free. takes like 10 minutes

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Sans911Senior Contributor21 July 2022, 10:43 pm AEST

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I already have a business name & abn @outlander. I'm just waiting on a mentor program.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 10:57 pm AEST

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thats amazing @Sans911 im sure your bussiness will be successful
can i ask what industry it is in

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Sans911Senior Contributor21 July 2022, 11:05 pm AEST

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Same @outlander. Advocacy and mh, disability support. But it's a bit complicated to set up due to some ndis legalities.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 11:07 pm AEST

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ndis is so overly complicated @Sans911 its abit of a pain. hopefully it can get set up soon

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 11:18 pm AEST

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how doyou find the strength to keep going @Sans911

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Sans911Senior Contributor21 July 2022, 11:35 pm AEST

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Sometimes I don't have that strength lil Sis @outlander. Sometimes I wonder if it's all worth fighting for. Because that's I all I seem to do. And I'm so tired of it all.

But I guess I look for the rainbow behind the clouds. And that reminds me that life still has beauty and colour.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 July 2022, 11:40 pm AEST

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yeah im hearing you. its how im feeling too. it feels like everyday theres always something to deal with whether its physical or mental. @Sans911

im suppose to be sleeping for a long shift tomorrow and i cant even sit down because of pain.

i dont really want to give in to the idea that this is my new life but its been my reality for a year now. or at least with this injury anyway. its been one of the hardest things ive ever had to deal with

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