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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Nov 2021, 11:44 pm AEDT

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@Snowie @Eve7 @NatureLover 💚💛

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Eve7Senior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 12:13 am AEDT

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@outlander

💜💜💜

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 10:49 am AEDT

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@outlander wishing you a good day sis

Lots of love 💗💗💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 3:38 pm AEDT

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i dont really understand why everytime i reach survival mode or i struggle everyone tells me to basically stop everything i do like the horses or caring for pop. so many people just keep telling me to get a real job. i do also have a 'real' job i work 5 10 hour shifts sometimes more a fortnight and its not really something i enjoy either/ dont know what getting a real job was suppose to do but anyway. i guess thats why ive stopped talking to people. seems like the same responses come from everyone.

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 3:59 pm AEDT

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@outlander I'm sorry to hear that you are going through so much at the moment.

Looking after your Pop is a full time job hon. Unfortunately people don't see this. And on top of that you have another job too.

Here with you and for you sis 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 4:37 pm AEDT

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I know theyre only trying to help and most know i dont really want to be pops carer much longer. But its hard. I cant just up and leave. Most suggest a job and then leave pop with someone else.

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 4:37 pm AEDT

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Oops @Snowie i forgot to tag you in above post

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 4:44 pm AEDT

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I can understand you just don't want to up and leave your Pop by himself @outlander I also doubt that they know exactly what you do every day for him. It must be hard being a carer and then working a full time job on top of that. There is a lot of pressure on you to continue looking after your Pop too no doubt.

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 4:55 pm AEDT

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I tried finding someone part time to take over here but no one can even handle him longer then 3 days before theyre shoving him back at me. I know they mean well and only want the best, theyve thought more about my future then i have tbh like regular income, working for companies for references sick leave etc and super as well @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Nov 2021, 5:58 pm AEDT

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That must make it hard for you hon @outlander

You have enough happening at home

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