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My husband is PA. It is very hurtful how he treats me and I am desparately trying to figure out how best to deal with his behavior. When we are alone we are usually very good together, but when anything happens with his son (my step-son) or anyone of his family members he uses a pa approach to "getting back at me" instead of talking with me about whatever it is that he is mad about. It is really childish and I am at my wits end dealing with the rollarcoaster that our relationship is on. Has anyone else been dealing with someone who uses passive aggressive behaviour and how are you coping with it? Thanks.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Hello @Samara I was on the mountain madness remembering all the aggression from my family and my journey So yea ..... I've had a lot of aggression in my life ....... The end pointy tip was dealt with being on this site. I'm nearing 50 ...... 30 to 45 years of this for me to work out my own story. So my story ...... Is a very extreme story..... But my advise is honey get support. Go to women's patch working classes held at community centres See how other families live Embrace other family daily lives for a couple of hours per week And my brave friend : work out what you want ? Does this feel something you would do ?
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Dear @Samara @PixiGP @Cherpieus
Thank you for writing I am always reminded of the emotional range that some people have that enter adult hood Happy Angry Happy I'm really tired from work , sibling rivalry ...... My family are all better that me Angry She/he is so easy to walk over and I'm really tired passive aggressive
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SamaraContributor
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Thank you for the suggestions. I do not come from this background and I know what a "normal" relationship is supposed to be like. Things are better now for me. I made myself clear about what i need from my husband and that I will not accept anything less; he will lose his wife if this continues. I'm off the roller coaster. 🙂
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PassaggressiveContributor
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I didn't no my wife was passive aggressive until she walked out and said she wanted divorce it's been six mths she hasn't spoke to me once but has continued her emotional abuse and I am a wreck. After reading info about passive aggressive behaviour it has rocked me to my core as I discover things that drove me crazy she was doing as part of her PD now she is making our divorse high conflict and nothing makes sence
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