-Enigma-

Yes @Appleblossom! - what a wonderful post. Your endurance, faith and resilience is really paying off now. Yes life has a lot of twists and turns and can throw some big curveballs - but you are now enjoying the rewards of your perseverance, passion (for music/singing) and friendships that are blossoming. The latter takes time and nurturing but worth sticking around for. Life is hard but precious. The alternative doesn't offer much I figure. And we all have much to offer in our own ways....all depends on choices.

So good to read of your son enjoying life for a bit too - the sun is rising to greet you both. May it keep you warm as your presence does many people who come into your path. Keep believing in you. Keep in touch xxxx

@Former-Member - have been thinking about you. How is your daughter now? I hope you are alright - we care, please remember that. Here if you wish to talk anytime. Sending a warm hug xx 😘

Hi @Bunniekins - I had a good time with my friend today. She really opened up to me - the stress of her husband's declining health (stage 4 lung and bone cancer) is really getting to her. I know all about that and could relate. I am glad she felt she could talk to me. She is overwhelmed but we managed to laugh as well - and I won bingo three times lol! :money_mouth_face: Just when I needed it to cover the extravagant costs of my cross stitch/embroidery project - beads and fine Metallicas are expensive!! So I must of done something good 😄

I do have a love for the arts. I also enjoy academic studies but my heart was always in the theatre, writing, music - anything creative. Cross stitch and embroidery came later in life - as did radio astronomy that I use to undertake in correlation with radio telescopes I had on my old farm (no light pollution, it was wonderful and exciting - we were part of the SETI programme) - astronomy and such is fascinating to me but not possible to do well on the East Coast where I live now. It was a good experience while it lasted.

I have so many varied interests. I was awarded a scholarship when in high school by an Arts school to study mainly drama. But my childhood home abuse ruined mostly everything above.....but it's never too late, I still enjoy engaging in those activities. So happy to read that you are still studying and pursuing your interests/dreams. It does keep the grey matter active - also our passion for living. I love reading stories like that and they are inspirational to others. Keep going.

What made you particularly interested in volcanos? There is a unique fascination about them and seeing an active one would be awesome. How was your day? xx

@Former-Member Hi -Enigma- I love reading your posts :). I have had a lovely day thankyou. Spent the day wth my children who I adore. /Why do I love volcanoes?? ... They are so awe inspiring when they are active. I love their power, their danger, we are so small when you compare yourself to something like an active volcano. I would love to be able to visit an active one and have a look inside at all the lava. It would be wonderful to do ... in the bucket list of things. To have a job, be paid to do something like being a volcanologist would be a dream come true but even if it never eventuates that is okay as the journey to get to that point is also wonderful 🙂

Ah yes, seeing an active volcano would be one of those rare experiences that we wish we could freeze in time. 🌋. Do you believe earthquake activity and volcano eruptions are connected? Would be interested to hear your thoughts on that.

Its true that undertaking the practical journey towards our dreams and what brings our imaginations/fascination alive is the fun part - it's the anticipation and the character building. Sometimes stress is thrown in and life happens, but it's all worth the determination we put in when that dream is realised - it will happen for you @Bunniekins in some form or another. Keep visualising it. Although I am not sure under what circumstances we can get close to an active volcano - probably professionally monitoring from a good distance? I never really thought about this before - you have me wondering now lol.

Yes, to be paid to do something we love would be the ultimate - but the love you have in your home there for your children is the most powerful thing in the universe. You are a wonderful mother - I so admire you xx

You are a wonderful mother @Former-Member

Helllo and hugs @Former-Member, @Bunniekins, @outlander, @Appleblossom

@Former-Member Thank you -Enigma- you are a wonderful mother too. Really both you and your husband ... are wondful parents 😄

I beleive in the Butterfly Effect. Where a butterfly flaps its wings on one side of the world creating a hurricane on the other. So yes maybe earthquake activity and volcano eruptions are connected.

xxx

Hi @Shaz51 how has your day been?

Oh yes @Former-Member - I can find it difficult to keep up on the forums when under stress, busy or pressure. I totally understand when people cannot respond. Never feel pressured - only respond if it helps you. It is always good to hear from you though - I enjoy our chats.

I also totally understand why your daughter would be wanting to give up Uni, not just because of her ordeal the other day - but of the realisation of the seriousness of her illness is dawning. Your daughter, and yourself, would be feeling totally overwhelmed - I know the feeling well. And it will take abit of time to recover from the trauma and shock of the other day and for your daughter to adjust - but in time she will. She will come to learn of her limitations and work within them and will realise she does not have to give up as she can still have a life. She just needs to work out in time have to cope and work around the obstacles. It will build resolve in her - she will become even stronger.

You did well in encouraging her not to quit. That would of only made her feel defeated and lower. And it's a good thing she has some distraction.

As long as she follows medical advice I think it's a good thing that she lets nothing stop her from pursuing her goals. My husband doesn't - but knows when not to push too hard that can make his illnesses worse. Taking a break now and then is fine if the need arises - and then when recharged go straight back into engaging in life and pursuing goals. This is so important - to have purpose that builds meaning for life and purpose to keep going. Never give up. It's just getting that balance right of work and health care that can take a bit of adjusting and getting use to - but your daughter will work it out. With your love and support she will get through anything. And we are here to support you when it gets a bit much.

It is hard @Former-Member, very hard but very doable with determination and passion. The latter is what drives us sick or healthy - where we make a difference without even realising sometimes. Your daughter will find her balance and passion in time - and she is yours for now. You are a great mother - the most important job in the world. You will both get through this - guaranteed! And yes, tomorrow is a new day, new hope, a new beginning.

My daughter has been staying away from the dangerous chap so far. She may be listening to our advice but won't tell me. We are close, but she is stubborn and not an open person, so it's hard to know what is going through her head. She is doing another course at the moment and working two jobs - so she is driven which is good. Keeps her busy and away from those who would like to bring her down. So it's looking hopeful for now. It's one day at a time with my daughter and enjoying the days when she is safe and happier. My husband's health is a constant - we can breathe for now and we keep doing our normal routine which is good. I am doing more around the house to save his body - I am discovering bones I never knew I had lol! Always here for you. Enjoy your cuppa - you deserve it ☕️💕