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outlanderSenior Contributor
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
@Queenie@utopia
an appointment on wednesday that im suppose to be attending but im not sure if I want to do that or not. Im thinking about waiting till I get more steady on my feet first otherwise I might not have the most desired result.
My psychiatrist didnt speak to anyone uless she asked me first and asked If there was anythign in particular I didnt want said or do want said and her and my Gp both worked very closely together esp over the past few weeks. My psychiatrist actually came and visited me while I was in hospital.
And the last time I gave her permission- well both gp and psychiatrist- it turned really bad and I ended up in hospital!
Ill go tomorrow and see how it all goes but ill definently be making it clear I dont want what I say in the session to be meantioned to mum or her bf esp without my go head.
Im thinking that if I go in there tomorrow and discuss the reasos why I was in hospital and how I was feeling and get her opinion on it. Ill bet she says thats the best place for me- and then tell mum and her bf cause they still dont believe me. They may have changed their attitude about my responsibilities but it hasnt hanged their views on my MH state.
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
@outlander A psychologist cannot tell your mother or anyone else what you discuss in a session, without your consent. If your psychologist was to disclose to your mother anything you say, that would be a reportable ethical breach.
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KokoContributor
If she's a professional she should make her own assessment but you can also say you are concerned that your mum has seen her and has spoken to her. I would discuss that first to allay anxiety. I am a counsellor (not working) but I would ask you straight up how you feel about your mums involvement. I just found my 7th counsellor in 18 months and she seems really great. I told her I was at the end of my rope with having had so many not work out. I made a list of all the issues I had with counselling and talked about that first. I have moved 4 times so had to leave counsellors and the others it wasn't my doing....pregnancy, moving, one that really sucked anyway. That time is YOUR time. With what sounds a traumatic history, no one should EVER push you to say something you're not ready to. I'm sorry this is going on but how awesome are you to keep trying. Well done. I know it's tough!
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KokoContributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
@outlander Well if your mum is saying things like that, it may be that the psychologist is making it clear to her that, as I just said, she cannot discuss anything you say, with your mother. That is a good thing.
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KokoContributor
It sounds like she's putting your mum in her place!!! That is putting in boundaries which is excellent. Is it worth discussing it with counsellor tomorrow??? It may actually work IN your favour if counsellor knows mum!?? But it's entirely your choice. You have the power AND how would you feel about talking to your mum about that phone call and how you felt? It might be good for your mum to know YOU are in control of YOUR recovery. Sounds like mum might just be worried about you?!?!?!?!
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KokoContributor
It sounds like she's putting your mum in her place!!! That is putting in boundaries which is excellent. Is it worth discussing it with counsellor tomorrow? It may actually work in your favour if counsellor knows mum!? But it's entirely your choice. You have the power and how would you feel about talking to your mum about that phone call and how you felt? It might be good for your mum to know you are in control of your recovery. Sounds like mum might just be worried about you?
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