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Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Hi everyone,

There have been a lot of discussion about ‘fear’ in the Forums lately; what impacts, good or bad, it’s had on our lives and questions about how to manage it. So what better way to bring together our collective tips and advice for each other than to revolve tonight's topic around the emotion?!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2strQAiM0iA

Tonight we are focusing on ‘Fear’. There is a wide spectrum of different types of fear – so we may not get to everything tonight, but what I’m hoping we can get to tonight is giving a brief overview of ‘fear’, talk about our own individual experiences with fear, talk about some strategies to manage ‘fear’ and try and apply it to our own individual situations.

So to start off lets look at what fear is from a physiological and psychological perspective.

Fear is a primal instinct that served us as cave dwellers and today. It keeps us alive, because if we survive a bad experience, we never forget how to avoid it in the future.

Our most vivid memories are born in Fear. Adrenaline embeds them into our brains.

Today, fear still hovers around us, silently monitoring our environments. As sensory information enters the brain, it splits into two paths. One feeds into consciousness, where we can observe and remember it. The other flows through the subconscious, where a region in the brain called the amygdala filters it for signs of danger. When a match is found, the amygdala can trigger an automatic response so quickly that we might respond before we're consciously aware that there's a problem.

So back in day fear kept us safe, gave us almost 'super human' skills to fight or flee, to manage threats like lions, tigers and bears (oh my!).

But now, those threats mostly don't exist... so we have to find a way to recognise what fear is and create strategies to manage our physical and psychological responses.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

i find music help with destractions too, takes your mind off of things, helps you focus on something else.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Yes, same @Jacques music is always a part of my relaxation

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

I can relate to that, @simply_me
one of my goals is to be more relaxed when getting to know people, and it can be difficult to use anxiety management techniques while interacting with someone.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

yes i was put onto a lady who is a mindfullness guru, you can download her videos off youtube and podcasts from her web site, her name is Tara Brach, i often listen to her podcasts when i am really anxious, she helps you stay in the moment, she is really good.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

There are actually some preventative exercises you can practice, which will increase your skills in managing anxious moments when they hit...

It revolves around the practice of mindfulness -

Several times a day, notice that you're basically alright. Noticing that you're actually alright right now is not about the "power of positive thinking" (said in a Tony Robbins style voice)

Rather, making yourself aware of a simple but profound fact: In this moment I am alright. You are sensing the truth in your body, that it is breathing and living and okay. You are recognising that your mind is functioning fine no matter what negative thoughts are dwelling in your mind at that moment.

By "right now," it means this instant. When we go into the future, we worry and plan. When we go into the past, we resent and regret.

Look again at the thin slice of time that is the present. In this moment, are you basically okay? Is breathing okay? Is the heart beating? Is the mind working? The answers are always yes.

By practicing this when we're not anxious or facing something we fear, it becomes more automatic and can be quite grounding.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Jacques - I like to be really tired at night too before I go to sleep as this is usually a prime time for my mind to be racing with scary thoughts.

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sorry guys i have to go, thank you all so much for the discussion, it has been great, thankyou @NikNik for taking the time to start the conversation you are so good to everyone here.

Thank you All, stay safe and Warm

Jacques

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Thanks @Jacques
Hope you're taking care of yourself tonight and keeping warm too.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Yes it is not nice waking up in the middle of the night in a panic

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

So I want to put this question to all of you

@soul @greenspace @Former-Member @simply_me @everyone 🙂

Some of you have talked about what you fear... but just to reword that question a bit to look at it from a different perspective...

What would you do if you weren't afraid?

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