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Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Hi everyone,

There have been a lot of discussion about ‘fear’ in the Forums lately; what impacts, good or bad, it’s had on our lives and questions about how to manage it. So what better way to bring together our collective tips and advice for each other than to revolve tonight's topic around the emotion?!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2strQAiM0iA

Tonight we are focusing on ‘Fear’. There is a wide spectrum of different types of fear – so we may not get to everything tonight, but what I’m hoping we can get to tonight is giving a brief overview of ‘fear’, talk about our own individual experiences with fear, talk about some strategies to manage ‘fear’ and try and apply it to our own individual situations.

So to start off lets look at what fear is from a physiological and psychological perspective.

Fear is a primal instinct that served us as cave dwellers and today. It keeps us alive, because if we survive a bad experience, we never forget how to avoid it in the future.

Our most vivid memories are born in Fear. Adrenaline embeds them into our brains.

Today, fear still hovers around us, silently monitoring our environments. As sensory information enters the brain, it splits into two paths. One feeds into consciousness, where we can observe and remember it. The other flows through the subconscious, where a region in the brain called the amygdala filters it for signs of danger. When a match is found, the amygdala can trigger an automatic response so quickly that we might respond before we're consciously aware that there's a problem.

So back in day fear kept us safe, gave us almost 'super human' skills to fight or flee, to manage threats like lions, tigers and bears (oh my!).

But now, those threats mostly don't exist... so we have to find a way to recognise what fear is and create strategies to manage our physical and psychological responses.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

@happygirl I think our personalities perhaps can impact how we react to fear... some people in confrontation may use anger and say things they don't mean, while someone else may 'freeze' in the same situation.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

I don't know what the technical differences are between shyness and anxiety/fear, but it seems like maybe your mother and your studies are both things that really matter to you and that you might worry about "doing well enough" or meeting people's expectations..?

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Has anyone heard of the Perception Gap?

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I have suffered from fear from about the age of 4, i could never leave my parents side, i am 33 and have never spent a night away from them. i don't know whhat initially triggered it, but i am so frightened that if i leave their side, something bad will happen to them or me.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

no i have not heard of the perception gap

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

@soul - for me it's all about having some sense of control within any given environment. The less control or ability I have to determine what will occur - the more anxious I will generally become

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Yes i have the same problem, the less control of a situation the more anxious

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Even if I know I will do well in my studies I still fear it. Can't pinpoint why. With my mother I just fear her judgement. I know I will never be good enough for her but still I fear her words and actions.

If I don't achieve perfection I don't mind. As loong as I pass my studies that's good enough for me.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

That sounds like my sister and me 🙂 we get on really well, but we have had these habits of reacting to being anxious in those ways. Both of us sometimes freeze, hide from the world, but my sister is more likely to get angry and I am more likely to try and placate everyone.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I was able to leave my parents. It's my husband I cannot leave so I know what you mean Jacques

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