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Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **Closed**

Hi everyone,

There have been a lot of discussion about ‘fear’ in the Forums lately; what impacts, good or bad, it’s had on our lives and questions about how to manage it. So what better way to bring together our collective tips and advice for each other than to revolve tonight's topic around the emotion?!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2strQAiM0iA

Tonight we are focusing on ‘Fear’. There is a wide spectrum of different types of fear – so we may not get to everything tonight, but what I’m hoping we can get to tonight is giving a brief overview of ‘fear’, talk about our own individual experiences with fear, talk about some strategies to manage ‘fear’ and try and apply it to our own individual situations.

So to start off lets look at what fear is from a physiological and psychological perspective.

Fear is a primal instinct that served us as cave dwellers and today. It keeps us alive, because if we survive a bad experience, we never forget how to avoid it in the future.

Our most vivid memories are born in Fear. Adrenaline embeds them into our brains.

Today, fear still hovers around us, silently monitoring our environments. As sensory information enters the brain, it splits into two paths. One feeds into consciousness, where we can observe and remember it. The other flows through the subconscious, where a region in the brain called the amygdala filters it for signs of danger. When a match is found, the amygdala can trigger an automatic response so quickly that we might respond before we're consciously aware that there's a problem.

So back in day fear kept us safe, gave us almost 'super human' skills to fight or flee, to manage threats like lions, tigers and bears (oh my!).

But now, those threats mostly don't exist... so we have to find a way to recognise what fear is and create strategies to manage our physical and psychological responses.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

@Eagle

That's a great way of looking at it.

There's a huge scale of the intensity of fear.

If your quality of life is compromised or you want to make a change - you should seek advice from a professional.

@soul that must have been really scary!

As I mentioned above - when your body gears up for a flight or fight response, and then the physical activity doesn't take place, there is an imbalance that takes place - so as an example - excess oxygen can cause dizziness. I'm sure an increased heart rate can cause chest pains, as you mentioned.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

The medicos who support me are great and I am very grateful for everything they offer - however, I have lived with anxiety for much of my life (nearly 56 now) - there just doesn't seem to be a treatment / medication to really assist in any significant manner - so, anxiety is very much a way of life.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

I find my fear is the worst when I wake up in the middle of the night. Sleep gives me a reprieve from my worries but when I wake and the chasm between that unconscious state and reality is so huge and apparent again, panic sets in.

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

If I could manage my anxiety better I would do more, because I wouldn't avoid things out of fear, plus I would have more energy - being anxious or fearful a lot of the time is tiring!

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

can so relate to this - I call it a state of emotional paralysis

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

@happygirl - you're not the only one! Some argue that we should call the reaction to fear 'Flight, fight or freeze' !

Tonight we will look at some tips and strategies to face fear which I hope will help you when you freeze - and I encourage people to later share things that have worked for them.

But for now... I'm curious to know, is there something specific that causes fear and anxiety for you or is it unpredictable?

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Totally @greenspace
Not only emotionally tiring, but your body is working so hard, it's physically tiring!

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Re: Topic Tuesday / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid? **NOW OPEN**

Happygirl, that's so frustrating, isn't it? I've sometimes re-written an interaction with someone in my imagination so that I'll stop beating myself up about it or going over & over it in my mind, feeling embarrassed and annoyed with myself

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

My fear is always in relation to my mother and my studies. I am a very shy person so would this contribute to me freezing or is it the fear?

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Re: Topic Tuesday / 14 July 7pm AEST / Fear; What would you do if you weren't afraid?

My fear stems from uncertainty regarding the future and not being in a position to control what happens.
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