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Setting appropriate goals.

Unknown userMember07 July 2015, 11:25 pm AEST

Setting appropriate goals.

Hi everyone,

This is the first discussion I have started here. I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions for going about setting goals. I have never really had anything like a life plan. I will generally have a variety of things that I want to do if the opportunity arises but I am not really good at creating opportunity.

When I undertook CBT a couple of years ago I was encouraged to formulate goals using the SMART criteria. Which means that chosen goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timed. I find the idea of this somewhat inflexible and maybe too much about the destination and not enough about the journey.

I am wondering what others think. Is it necessary to have specific goals? If you set aside one goal because another more attractive prospect comes along is that a sign of lack of committment?

Any comments will be appreciated.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 July 2016, 4:52 pm AEST

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hello my special friend @PeppiPatty

Have been thinking of you today , hope you are ok xx

setting goals are tricky for me

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Unknown userMember10 July 2016, 5:03 pm AEST

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Hi @PeppyPatty,

I am not sure about the who I am question. A couple of things that helped me feel better about myself was writing a list of my good things and thinking about what I enjoyed before I met my partner.

I hope you enjoy your quilting
It is something I would like to try one day.
You could let me know how you are going.

Cheers

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 July 2016, 5:13 pm AEST

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Thank you @Carer101, I needed that

A couple of things that helped me feel better about myself was writing a list of my good things and thinking about what I enjoyed before I met my partner.

That is good advice @Former-Member,

How about you @PeppiPatty

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Unknown userMember09 Oct 2016, 3:53 pm AEDT

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Hello,

I thought I would resurrect this post because despite various frustrations along the way I have indeed come close to completing the goal that I set when I did CBT a few years ago and am going onto the next step towards a new career for myself.

I want to thank everybody that helped me along by responding to this post.

@Durango and @Claired your advice about working towards acceptance were very appropriate. I think that accepting ourselves and our loved ones for who we are is part of it all and necessary for going on and doing our own things without worrying about the next breakdown happening.

@Shaz51 I hve a special thank you for you for continuing to think of me and all the great support you give here on a continuing basis it is a great gift.

cheers,

Carer101.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor09 Oct 2016, 5:20 pm AEDT

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Hello @leia, @Faith-and-Hope, @Anony18, @TAWNEY, @Kiera80, @Diamond, @cheersquad, @Lily, @Grace01, @lostconcerned, @Hamburger, @artee, @Mumsworry1

@Former-Member@, you have given me soo much support over the year my friend xx

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Shaz51Senior Contributor28 Mar 2020, 7:45 pm AEDT

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hello @Former-Member , have been thinking of you lots , hope you are ok

@Appleblossom

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Unknown userMember29 Mar 2020, 9:41 pm AEDT

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Thanks for thinking about me @Shaz51. I am coping so far. Business as usual really. Another year, another crisis 🤷🏻‍♀️. Good timing for considering goal setting to have something to look forward to. Hope you are doing okay.

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Unknown userMember29 Mar 2020, 9:43 pm AEDT

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Sorry @Appleblossom was confused reading the post. Thanks for thinking of me. Hope you doing okay😀

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