Setting appropriate goals.

I wish you had been around to be my brother's uncle @AlienBP2. An afternoon or two like that during our childhood would have actually made a difference.

By the time he was with an uncle he was 20 and had a motor cycle accident out of state and seriously wrecked his knees and hips. Yet he got a job on a pineapple farm which ripped the scabs off ... at that stage he didnt SH that much but when we are not even allowed to heal genuine wounds properly and are accused of being lazy ... it put him in a precarious position.

He might still be here today if one of mum's 5 strapping uncles could have thought like you. But I need to ACCEPT the past and COMMIT to my future.

Dear @Former-Member and @Claired @Appleblossom @hopeandsupport @AlienBP2

I've been trying to write my values down but keep on getting side lined......so much to do....

I've crochetted two bags (not great, not exactly what I want)

The letters Ive helped a group of people with.....in their housing situation are getting answered ......

I cannot write properly and want to write letters to too many people but if I slow down.....

maybe Im like Amorphorus.... like @Appleblossom

Im not very clever but Im kind. Amorphorus means unstable/changing right??

I must look at that career site....

I just checked in my cancer brother's blog .... he wrote amidst a lot of other stuff:

"I will die soon" and "I have enough"

It is so sad. I wish he had been more mature when I first welcomed him back into our family ... we might have had an extended family together ... but we had what we had and I have a lovely photo on the wall of him with my daughters and niece and nephew ... It was all money money money, then ... and how stupid other people were ... for who knows what reasons ... I hope he makes it past this christmas ... I am planning to go up for New Year ... maybe should be ready to have christmas in Sydney too.

amorphous ... is a lovely word @PeppiPatty good to see you

I have been distracted too when writing goals and values ... but put them in journals and find an unfinished list later ... 6 months, or a year later ... and then go back to it ... dont be too hard on yourself

we shouldnt be micro managing ... or we will miss the big picture.

Hi @Appleblossom,

I thought I would touch base with this thread because I think I have made some progress.

When I first started trying to set goals I felt really selfish and frightened of reactions.

I had support and pushed through these fears and reached out for more support when I needed it.

I am feeling much more confident and just more able to get things done.

I think that it is good to have some SMART goals but also good to have an ideal to work towards, Maybe as was suggested earlier in the thread the person I would like to be,

cheers

Hi @Former-Member I hope your daughter is doing well with her music and you are getting more out of life.

Sorry I just read this post in an old email, but the kind of goals we set make a big difference ...

At the moment I am trying to do lots of tying up of lose ends ... sorting through paperwork, cleaning out digital files on an old off-line computer that I thought was broken .. being thorough ... it might still take a few months .... and then I might get onto my mobile phone ... after all the important t's are crossed and i's dotted.

Hello @Carer101 and @Claired @Appleblossom @hopeandsupport @AlienBP2, @PeppiPatty

this is a great tread @Former-Member

Can I ask you how you did this , get started ???--

(When I first started trying to set goals I felt really selfish and frightened of reactions.

I had support and pushed through these fears and reached out for more support when I needed it.)

(I am feeling much more confident and just more able to get things done.) -- this is great , and I think this would be good for me too

Thank you for including me in your thread @Shaz51

My darling friend.....

Deos anyone want a cup of tea? I'm just reading the thread after making anyone a cuppa tea....

PP

DEar @Former-Member

Yeah, I like athe smart goals too. I've been struggling with " Who I want to be.........."

@t the beginning of this thread.....@Durango's message got me thinking......

@Durango writes:

I've cut and pasted his message:

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Goals really are just a list of things to do

have a goal, make a plan, take small steps,

"What kind of person do I want to be?"

I feel like I am being true to my self".

In this case it would be difficult to follow a plan that makes the person feel like they need to

let go of security, spend time away from people they love, give away some freedom for

financial gain etc.

make sure the goals align with who you are.

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No, I don't want to be rich but yes, I'm loking forward to getting my carer's payment

tomorrow because Im paying off my patchwork quilting stuff to be taught to patchwork quilt next week

I ask you: How can WE determine who we are? I know that AGE has helped me with this one.