Struggling to Survive

I hear you @Zoe7 @Maggie @Former-Member. Sometimes super giant muddles take a super giant time to unmuddle and thus I know it can seem like nothing is happening. Please know that unmuddling IS happening behind the scenes. I really and truly do hear you.

Thank you @Zoe7 for soooo much being YOU. I know you are broken, but you continually help us broken to be heard.

Childhood trauma has a brilliant way of leaving you carrying the blame, I'm very good at it, can always find a reason that it was my fault. I even took the blame for port Arthur, that rocked my psychiatrist at the time .lol

Anyway, small cracks are showing sometimes, and I have a moment when I see things differently, and the BAD me isn't quite that BAD. Just momentary, but very very welcome.

Anyway, I'm a mess of tears and seeing what I'm writing becoming impossible. Thank you for hearing me. 💛💜💕

Hi @Zoe7 @Maggie & @Former-Member

I'm saddened to hear that you don't feel safe in the Forums, as Safety is one of the main principles overarching the guidelines, as well as 'Respect' and 'Anonymity'.

While it's hard to know exactly the circumstances you're referring to, the guidelines are front and centre when we moderate and something that we keep on top of. Unfortunately, not all situations are black and white. There are many considerations to make when enforcing guidelines - particularly context.

As with any community (on or offline), it evolves, grows and changes - but what is always consistent is our commitment to working with members to help them use the forums in a way that will be beneficial to them and the broader community.

We are always willing to communicate and work with members when guidelines are breached or a member is impacted by another member, particularly in the more grey situations. We are always open to receiving emails asking why a decision was made (or not) and we always taken allegations or reports of posts very seriously. We are also very open to exploring members' feedback if a post has gone live and they feel it breaches guidelines.

I ask that you to contact us at team@saneforums.org to discuss this further, particularly if you'd like to highlight an issue or flag a concern about a specific situation.

I also totally respect that you may be taking time away from the forums - so there's no pressure to get in touch if you're taking time out for look after yourself.

Take care

Nik

Ohhhhh @Zoe7 @Maggie & @bookish , I am total sad to hear this my friends

Sending you hugs and with @NikNik, we can solve this

@Former-Member and @Maggie Wanted to check in with you both and hope you are both doing as ok as you can. As it seems I don't have a voice here or anywhere anymore it is best I not be here but want you to both know that doesn't stop me thinking about you both

@Zoe7 I saw and I heard you. Right now I do not understand why that which was now is not, but I have asked the question and I will keep on asking. I hear you. I so so SO hear you! Please know how very VERY much I hear you.

@Phoenix_Rising @Catcakes no point - had no voice all my life so should not expect here to be any different