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soulSenior Contributor
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Thinking of you @Faith-and-Hope and glad that you have found some refuge in a little coffee shop.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ouch @Faith-and-Hope that sounds painful
Yes please keep doing those beautiful paintimg of yours.
I really hope your situation will get better for you. Sounds like its about to get harder though before it gets better.
My therapy is the same i havent gone into anything yet atm just dealing with the surface stuff.
Take that boat and life jacket when you need too ❤❤❤❤
Yes @Owlunar its very scary shite!!!!!!
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Oh my - to have a son die by suicide must be so heartbreaking, and for your cousin too. Being someone who first attempted suicide at the mere age of 14, I always wonder how different things would be today if I wasn't here.. and often think things would be fine.
I had a huge event in my family also.. Basically my cousin came home to his Mum dead in the living room and his Dad had comitted suicide in the garage. That was a real eye opener and so traumatic for my family and most definitely my cousin at only 12 years of age at the time walking into it..
Then my second aunt committed suicide shortly after. Although I haven't met any of this family - due to reasons that they all lived in the UK.
Its so traumatic.. Yet my parents are still in denial of mental health issues running through the family.. Although my Dad is an alcoholic and comes home and goes straight to bed at around 4-6pm. Then all he ever is- is aggresive.
I hope days are getting easier for you. I can't imagine the loss of a child. I can't even imagine having a child. I only know as much as what my dear friend's Mum and Father has talked about and told me.. They have really been struggling to just survive but they stay alive for their youngest son.. who is now the same age as when their other son passed away.
I'm so sorry too. I cannot imagine.
@Owlunar
I had a huge event in my family also.. Basically my cousin came home to his Mum dead in the living room and his Dad had comitted suicide in the garage. That was a real eye opener and so traumatic for my family and most definitely my cousin at only 12 years of age at the time walking into it..
Then my second aunt committed suicide shortly after. Although I haven't met any of this family - due to reasons that they all lived in the UK.
Its so traumatic.. Yet my parents are still in denial of mental health issues running through the family.. Although my Dad is an alcoholic and comes home and goes straight to bed at around 4-6pm. Then all he ever is- is aggresive.
I hope days are getting easier for you. I can't imagine the loss of a child. I can't even imagine having a child. I only know as much as what my dear friend's Mum and Father has talked about and told me.. They have really been struggling to just survive but they stay alive for their youngest son.. who is now the same age as when their other son passed away.
I'm so sorry too. I cannot imagine.
@Owlunar
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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Oh wow @Former-Member - no wonder you have done so much research into suicide - I read a post of yours some days back - about suicide - it gave me a lot to think about so I didn't remark on it at the time
You have had a lot to cope with and deal with and reflect upon - and you are right - there is a lot of MI in your family - or I should say - seems to be - and your parents are in denial and your father is an aggressive alcoholic - that is a rough way to have a family - no wonder dazed.........
I just saw something on Dr Phil about teenage suicide - and that was hard to sit through it but my hard dates have passed for now and it wasn't triggering - but you first attempted at 14 - that is so young - and as it was your first there seems there must have been more - I really care about that.
My son died 31 years ago now - it can be very raw at times - esp in the middle of winter - passed this year now - and around the date of his adoption rather than his birthday - but it does get easier - I promise you
And for your dear friend's family and for your family in the UK - yes - really hard - and it has to be comforting for them that you listen
But care for yourself too - helping other people is a great way to help with a loss but we have lost too - you have had a lot of loss in your life - so today - people tell me this - I don't know if it helps - but try and do something nice for yourself
All the best and keep posting - this is a great place and a safe place
Dec
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Oh yeah, I do read up about the brain a lot and suicide does come up a lot too.. I found myself unconscious in hospital only 4 months ago now. Being told that I was going to fall into a coma and potentially die. Sorry if I wrote or said anything harmful, I just deal with a lot within my family and their approaches to my mental health and lack of support.
Yes I was very young on my first attempt.. Definitely wasn't my last. My most serious attempt was the one earlier this year... But still left with no support at home or in the community. My family didn't even visit me in hospital for the lengthy time I was there for. I don't remember much of it though
😞 Time flies - I am so glad to see you here, sharing your experiences and sadly heartache too. I still cannot imagine. They say it gets easier but I dont know.
yes very hard indeed - for the both of us.
I have already had a lot of loss.. Not only in people too... but I have lost friendships, education, family support.. basically I am left with not much to hang on to.
You too Dec. Take care of yourself.
It's been lovely having this conversation with you
@Owlunar
Yes I was very young on my first attempt.. Definitely wasn't my last. My most serious attempt was the one earlier this year... But still left with no support at home or in the community. My family didn't even visit me in hospital for the lengthy time I was there for. I don't remember much of it though
😞 Time flies - I am so glad to see you here, sharing your experiences and sadly heartache too. I still cannot imagine. They say it gets easier but I dont know.
yes very hard indeed - for the both of us.
I have already had a lot of loss.. Not only in people too... but I have lost friendships, education, family support.. basically I am left with not much to hang on to.
You too Dec. Take care of yourself.
It's been lovely having this conversation with you
@Owlunar
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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Hi again @Former-Member
You haven't said anything harmful - quite the opposite - very helpful. I have done a lot of research into Youth Suicide myself - most of it a long time ago - and I wrote a long submission to the Task Force into Youth Suicide in 1996 - what I wrote was so well received I was asked to speak at a conference and so y name appears twice in the publications I was sent on the subject
I was not suicidal but I did have short stays in a private psyche clinic when my son was alive and I was stressed out with his really bad behaviour - my parents were not interested and would not see me - I understand that you have no support and I do understand that - it's not reasonable - and not at all helpful but I am not sure that people with that mindset will change - my parents have passed now - natural causes - old age
For mean time has made things easier - however I never ever was on friendly terms with my mother - my father - yes - I am glad to say. I don't want to write details on my son's life - I write a little about his breaking the law etc and where he died - but mostly I let people know a little so they know I understand. I can hear you - and I think writing about it here is a good thing for you - people here are wonderfully helpful
I am enjoying this conversation too - what have you to hang onto? That is hard to answer but returning to more education is something I found really wonderful - it kept me going through the darkest times of my life. I already had an accounting diploma I got when I went to night-school when I was still in my teens and that was a good start - and I went back to school and finished my HSC and then went to University and got an Honours Degree - I had to work so I studied part-time and it took 12 years
Through all this time I had all sorts of tough life things to deal with and people wanted me to stop studying but I didn't - I have done a lot of short courses too - I seemed to have a bright light within me and my studies kept me going
I think I saw that you might think of studying somewhere else in the forum - it's a good idea to follow up
All the best with that
Dec
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What a sigh of relief @Owlunar
That must have been a challenging yet - I suppose, very rewarding experience to be able to talk so openly about the often 'taboo' subject of suicide. Providing justice to not only your son but victims of suicide and the psycholinguistics of it all.
It is very hard to distinguish bad behaviour and depression at times - as it does manifest in many different ways and people cope or 'don't cope' in many different ways also. Sometimes parents too, don't know how to react or intervene in a helpful manner - but everyone is only human. We forget that sometimes. I am glad that you seeked help and I can hear just how much you cared about your son.
Having no support, not even your own family is a punch in the gut. It can make you feel so completely alone and so completely out of place. I am sorry to hear about the passing of your parents.
Sorry to hear about the relationship you had with your Mother. But - I am glad to hear that you had a good relationship with your Dad. You should never feel as though you have to share details about your son. I haven't heard much about your story until now, and I feel very privileged to get to know you. I respect you immediately. There are so many lovely people on here and what is even more beautiful is that we all come from different backgrounds and are of a variety of ages - but that doesn't define us and we can still share and connect. Without judgement, just full hearted.
I left education. But - I love to learn but not necessarily all the things they teach you in school - however, the things they don't teach you in school.. The knowledge that can be held onto and can be applicable to real life situations. I never did bad at school but I found it hard to function.. I couldn't go into a class without having a mental breakdown and having to be rushed out to the First Aid. Or without being sent to the Guidance Counsellor.. Therefore - I never finished grade 12 after constant hospitalisations and then the Guidance Counsellor too became very inappropriate towards me.. and completely abused me.
It's great that you didn't stop studying just because others told you too - It is obviously something you enjoy and nothing should take that away from you. Your intelligence is simply seen through your written language. You are very well spoken.
Yes - outlander and I will be starting a free course online about Nursing together. Just will have to see how we go.
Thank you @Owlunar
-Anais
That must have been a challenging yet - I suppose, very rewarding experience to be able to talk so openly about the often 'taboo' subject of suicide. Providing justice to not only your son but victims of suicide and the psycholinguistics of it all.
It is very hard to distinguish bad behaviour and depression at times - as it does manifest in many different ways and people cope or 'don't cope' in many different ways also. Sometimes parents too, don't know how to react or intervene in a helpful manner - but everyone is only human. We forget that sometimes. I am glad that you seeked help and I can hear just how much you cared about your son.
Having no support, not even your own family is a punch in the gut. It can make you feel so completely alone and so completely out of place. I am sorry to hear about the passing of your parents.
Sorry to hear about the relationship you had with your Mother. But - I am glad to hear that you had a good relationship with your Dad. You should never feel as though you have to share details about your son. I haven't heard much about your story until now, and I feel very privileged to get to know you. I respect you immediately. There are so many lovely people on here and what is even more beautiful is that we all come from different backgrounds and are of a variety of ages - but that doesn't define us and we can still share and connect. Without judgement, just full hearted.
I left education. But - I love to learn but not necessarily all the things they teach you in school - however, the things they don't teach you in school.. The knowledge that can be held onto and can be applicable to real life situations. I never did bad at school but I found it hard to function.. I couldn't go into a class without having a mental breakdown and having to be rushed out to the First Aid. Or without being sent to the Guidance Counsellor.. Therefore - I never finished grade 12 after constant hospitalisations and then the Guidance Counsellor too became very inappropriate towards me.. and completely abused me.
It's great that you didn't stop studying just because others told you too - It is obviously something you enjoy and nothing should take that away from you. Your intelligence is simply seen through your written language. You are very well spoken.
Yes - outlander and I will be starting a free course online about Nursing together. Just will have to see how we go.
Thank you @Owlunar
-Anais
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Owlunar, @outlander, @soul
how many siblings have you got @Former-Member, sorry you did not sleep well last night , i hope you had a restful day today
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@Shaz51
I have 2 siblings - I am the middle child of two sisters.. Both of my sisters are very close and I am very much the odd one out. I haven't slept today but hopefully will be able to tonight.
Do you have any siblings? How was your day?
I have 2 siblings - I am the middle child of two sisters.. Both of my sisters are very close and I am very much the odd one out. I haven't slept today but hopefully will be able to tonight.
Do you have any siblings? How was your day?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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No , my brother died at birth @Former-Member
I hope you have a good night sleep tonight my friend
