Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

Hello @Determined

hoping that son well on the way to recovery..

also sleep ..as @Former-Member implied imperative for all of us..

what do you have planned for determined....your time..no matter how brief?

we are all thinking of you and here to listen..

take care..

Thinking of you too @Determined .....

Some mi’s are highly thankless and ungiving at an emotional level by their nature .... and that makes it seriously hard to separate the person from their mi. I find it helps to focus on the fact that the mi is treatable, and will reduce / stabilise over time. This is the hardest part, when it is still early stages, and they are not contributing wholeheartedly to their recovery ..... tending to lash out at their care-givers and looking for ways to escape behaviour management.

Its a soul-searching exercise to try to work out and establish (fortify ?) boundaries .....

Considering especially the ages of your children @Determined, I think you are doing an amazing job. Your wife is fortunate to have you, as are your children ....

Bless you ..... 🌿

@Former-Member

S1 seems unaffected and oblivious to the events of earlier in the week. Pleased that the issue was able to resolve its self with out the need for intervention. I wonder if the pain relief enabled muscles to relax and resolve the issue as it was after taking that that things improved.

Currently getting around 4 hours uninterrupted sleep each night (based on cpap data). Not nearly enough but better than I have been.

Thankyou for being there, and all my other sane friends, when you all have so much going on yourselves. I dont have much social opportunities to talk about stuff.

Thank you @Faith-and-Hope

I have always survived by separating my darling and who she is from the mi traits, I am starting to believe however that after a while the mi and the person start to become one, so intertwined that it is hard to tell the difference and wonder if they can they actually be seperated any more 😕 ... I hope not.

@Sanatorium23

Thankyou for your reply,

Yes it does get very lonely, a simple 'I love you' and 'thankyou' would go a long way towards recharging the batteries. It is what it is though and I find strength in believing that my darling does not choose to be like this.

I am far from perfect and have a lot of growth of my own to achieve, (working hard at this) but everything I do I do for my darling and our children even if I do often miss the mark.