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Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

This discussion is a follow on from my previous thread Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family, a thread I started when my wife was admitted to hospital for the third time in 6 months and when everything around me seemed to be falling apart. It was a space where I could vent and express my emotions and helped me to process a particularly difficult time not only in my own life but for our family and helped me to hold myself together in order to support my family. For that I am most grateful.

Those of you who were following our journey will know that on my darlings return home I have been encouraged by my councillor to implement some loving boundaries, (lovingly implemented guidelines, not as rules to be enforced), and some self-care for myself.

Now that my darling is home the purpose of this new thread is to document our journey of healing and implementing new boundaries and commitment to self-care, not only so that I can have a visual plan for myself (a bit of self-accountability to follow through with plans in place) but in the hope that it may help others processing similar trials. It will also be an opportunity to track our progress over time.

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Re: Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

More because she would percieve it as being controlled or implying she cant look after herself @soul

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Family politics is around expectations that I am a backup zookeeper if mum and sister cant find a house sitter when they go for extended holidays at the end of next month.

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Re: Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

Well - in a way she is needing someone else if she rings you.

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I see - there is a menagerie to look after I take it?

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I agree @soul but logic is not a strength at times like this. If I don't respond then it is seen as a form of rejection. Today worked out though so will try and stick to it.

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Lol @soul you could call it that,

Chooks, turkies, goats, fish and dogs.

4 dogs I might add she wants us to keep here, that will make 6 dogs we will have here making food time is a complete disaster.

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That does seem a big ask when you have your own family and pets to look after.

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Especially when they know how bad things are for us at the moment. I cant look after our own yard and hold our family together, and it will be in the middle uni final assessment.

The mind boggles that they would even consider me as an option. If I flat out say no the poo will hit the fan. Like I need the additional preassure at the moment.

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Enough of my whinging , how are you doing at the moment @soul

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Battery about to go flat so Im about to drop out.

Tomorrows another day 😊

Trust all is as well as can be for you.

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