Seeing doctors when you don't leave the flat?

oh my golly gosh @Mazarita

Yes i cant even find that excuse of....bi something something that i need help cleNing. Can you do what i did.....see your GP, ask for help because of MI, in WA called HACK and silver chain comes out to see me once per week. I put myself on a timetable.......9am.....wake up

10am....shower

10.30.....Arlo walk

Etc

Then week after, a cleaner comes in and we clean together. Or else, i was staying in bed all day.

No, my stalker was someone i broke up with but since October last year, he has not left me alone. I used to think i was going crazy......in the end, i decided not to go through police but get support letters etc etc.

No. He isnt father of sons but a lot of his temperement is similar to all my last partners because ive attracted my mother figure to me since 20 years old.

I see we are both up and it is getting late .. typical of us both .. I have always been a night owl .. my dear boy thought he was the only up at night but lately I have just been at .. a bugger it .. stage .. so now it is really cute when he tut tuts me and tells me to go to bed .. ahh roles reversed..

I never saw myself as a domestic goddesss and warned hubby when we got together. I had a major disconnect from the kitchen as mother was a lousy cook but quick to compare things to war food standards .. I learned cooking mostly from uys. After stopping being a druggie, I had a commitment/interest in nutrition and volunteered at whole food co-op at uni. .. maybe just cos of basic freebies.

I worked in restuarants and take-aways a lot which is part of my night owl problem .. used to get home at 12 midnight .. 4-5 nights per week and go to school .. it was useful in that I tried to make wholesome home versions of take out meals.

Yeah we all loved your pizza the other night.

I started with soups and salads. Just get about 10 recipes of each and rotate them. One each per week is enough to make a difference and you'll be able to do them in your sleep they are so easy. Not fancy but yummy and nutritious. At the moment my oven is not working so we aint getting roasts .. gotta get my act together to fix up a few things around the house but I have been sleeping in til 1pm .. that worries my darling boy .. Ohoh mum's misbehaving.. but not too seriously .. he still hasnt seen me drunk.

@PeppiPatty, @Appleblossom,

Thanks for your suggestions and stories. Off to bed now. Enjoy your late night session. 🙂

@Appleblossom,

yes maybe you are right, i seemed so angry last year, now all i can think of is people in a worse situation than me, maybe it is my way of justifying my existence, a way for me to feel less sorry for myself.

yes i suppose so, Karen @hiddenite has been through so much, we seem to have a bond i can't explain, but i have to say the only reason i am still alive is because of my need to care for mum in her old age, that is what has kept me going, what has given my life some meaning.

i am glad things went well at the rehearsal and more importantly you had a few laughs. i am glad you have a reason to be positive, and protect your boy, i hope things can be sesolved for you in the near future.

Thank you

Jacques

we have something in common girl

@Appleblossom

im over the councelling thing too. I always, slways suggest .....

Get involved with the community

Support others.

If things are too hard, join a group therapy.......

Please dont tell me your problems, im busy cuddling Arlo.

@Appleblossom, i just had a Very Young housing manager work out whether if i deserve a crisis move.

She was very young. And down the line profficient. I didnt know that i was having a housing inspection and i asked her, once she looked through my unit if it was ok?

She said..well.....your spare room could have been cleaner.

My computer froze for a day .. so trying to thaw it whilst doing other things .. like playing my recorder.

I am just responding to you as I have met you. @Jacques

Yes I am protective of my boy .. he also has strengths and is much more honest about his motives and behaviour than his father. His father does not do "protection" of children or me.

I was lucky to get out of relationship alive.

@PeppiPatty

I have done heaps of work in the community, but some people expect too much, so I have stopped helping out. Standards change but ... It got embarrassing when my son was helping me deliver food vouchers and christmas hampers to people in newer houses with huge 4wd out the front .. I am glad my son had enough social conscience to be bothered to help .. so he has my respect as well as love .. many cant be bothered and get others to do their dirty work.

When I was young I did not know enough pop culture to be able to chat or have all those "socially appropriate" exuberant moments most people have when growing up.Things were too extreme too young for me.

It is nice when we have things in common with other people .. but we also have to manage a raft of differences as well .. that is part of the challenge of life.

I still try and pull my weight in the community but not to be taken for a fool any more. Need to stand my ground in my relationships. I'm ok, Your ok.

A lawyer I had helped with singing for over a year, recently was nasty to me and pushed me out of my church choir.

I ended up moving to a better choir and we are still working the situation out, as my links in old choir go back years, including uni but far more. They did not want to lose me for musical and Royal Commission reasons ... but the stigma of suicide and MI is scary.

Just because people have fancy careers does not mean they should push others around. My paid and unpaid work has value. My work in the community and my work in the home has value. I believe volunteering is important and I try to see myself as a whole person who does many different things .. I have pulled weeds, planted, updated library catalogues, 5 years of delivering food vouchers worked in opshops etc.

dear @Appleblossom

On Ted there is a profound very interesting talk by journalist called Johann Hari. Its him talking about addiction.

Your son sounds awesome..🐢🐏🐦🐥🐤

Ja 47y

Hi @Appleblossom,

I am so angry to be a man in society today, the way men treat women is disgusting in egyption times women where treated as gods, now they are treated as property, i am tired of what men are capable of doing to women, so many of you have had such terrible times and i fee lso sorry you have all had such bad experiances with men.

sorry i am just becomming horrified at how cruel and nasty men can be, i don't know why they can't treat women with respect. like you all deserve.

Sorry i just had to vent.

Take Care @Appleblossom

Jacques

Thank you @Jacques

The whole Battle of the Sexes goes both ways. Neither sex is completely innocent. I hate it when females use men or let down "our" side by being bitchy.

The great thing about the ladies in my new choir, is that we can do good quality music AND have a laugh about innocent things like language. How Latin can seem to have lots of sexual references. They are not mean and do not gossip. It is such a relief to have found decent people in Australia. Its taken a while.

The other weird thing. Is that the lady of the house (from choir) introduced me as family to her kids as they coincidentally have a link going back 4 generations which connects with my father who had nobody on the planet except me.

Change is interesting. I have a photos of my father from school (1930s) because they kept some records. We only had one photo taken of him. My mother would jeer about the quality of the camera he bought us, but I always accepted anything and praised my husband for putting up a shelf and helped him with self esteem and sexual function.

For a long time I hated it when women mocked men for being no good in the kitchen ,, it was unconscious then but I was "siding" with my long dead father. Issues of access to food and shelter should not be taken for granted or held over people's heads.

Then the problem becomes general wariness and distrust because we have all heard enough horror stories.

I am proud of my son. He does not like to leave our place except for necessaries but is gradually growing into a man who works with his own fear, but has a social conscience. What more can a mum ask.

Thank you for being you. Dont take on any generalisation as your fault. We all have enough on our plate just being ourselves. You @Jacques have made this forum worthwhile for me.