Mourning all the (little) bad things that happen

Hello @Former-Member

You are in no way a failure, a job is a job something humans do to get money to survive and learn some skills along the way, there are many jobs that will come and go in your life and I get that it is the worst looking for work, it really is so hard.

Now really sounds like a time where you need to look after yourself, and perhaps need that encouragement to do that, I am glad your boss was supportive of that and cares about you instead of pushing you to work when you are not coping well.

Thinking of you and sorry to hear you are struggling with this change, I hope centrelink payments come through soon too help you financially.

Lunar

Woooow that sucks 😞 I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm on Newstart too, so I hear you on that one. It's the pits. And yes, their hold music has ruined many a lovely classical tune for me 😠

I had a big bad episode last year that cost me the career path I was going down at the time. It was the worst. I'd moved interstate to be able to get any work at all, and I was temping while I studied for the bar exam. The HR lady where I was working used to work for one of the big law firms, and she offered to take a look at my CV. I remember her saying "but there are just so many graduates who *haven't* been sick". I ended up in hospital a week later. I lost my job and my apartment, had to move back in with my dad, and was convinced I was a broken adult.

Ten months and lots of therapy later, I'm finally rebuilding. I'm back in my hometown and some of my networks know what's happened. Newstart still sucks, and I'm getting sick of eating minestrone survival rations, but being forced to take that step back has had benefits. I've had time to realise that practising lawyers are mostly miserable anyway, and that I'd rather teach. I started a casual tutoring job at my old uni yesterday. I hope that when I'm well enough, I can get in to a part-time PhD program and end up in the ivory towers of academia 😄

I guess my point is that I hope this has a silver lining for you. Give yourself some time, try some new things, and you might even be able to persuade Centrelink to help you re-skill or upskill to help you get back into the workforce fighting fit.

This isn't your fault, and you're gonna find a way through this, even if it is with a newfound hatred of soothing classical music.

Hiya @Former-Member. I'm sorry you didn't have the contract renewed but so glad your boss has been really good. She sounds like a good person and I know she supported you the best way she could while you were working. All that says loads about you too, that she chose to support you because she saw you as a good person too.

I hope something comes up soon. I know you must be in the thick of uni. My boys are. They've been studying up to 16 hours a day lately. Im just beginning to think about whether I should attempt a return to study. I've been sooo all over the place this year and don't trust myself much for anything.

I loved your squirrel on the art thread. I also saw your milo story on Friday feast which made me smile.

I hope study goes well for the next few weeks. I'm interested to see how you are going with therapy too and if it's helping. Best wishes 💜🤗💐

@Former-Member ..... I don’t think it is what you wrote at all .....

PR doesn’t do change well, as many here don’t, and the mod team are a “caretaker” crew on the weekends ..... not the Sane team that most up of us, particularly long-termers, are far more familiar with. This has caused issues to escalate sometimes, without any judgement over anyone’s efforts ..... and one more recent event caught PR in a tailspin. She, and some others, tend to keep a far lower profile across weekends.

PR has also had major upheaval of other concerns in the last couple of days of last week, which have been a far more direct focus ....

Please rest easy. If PR disagrees with any comment you have made, you would very likely have heard about it ..... one of her clear characteristics is to not mince her words .....

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