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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor12 Feb 2018, 4:31 pm AEDT

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That is great news @Faith-and-Hope

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DeterminedSenior Contributor12 Feb 2018, 4:42 pm AEDT

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My darling is looking happier this afternoon also, hoping it can hold.out that way. I asked a friend to jeep her company while I was out this afternoon, kind of forced her to get out of bed, the positive company has made a big difference.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor12 Feb 2018, 4:43 pm AEDT

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Keep her company lol 😊

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DeterminedSenior Contributor12 Feb 2018, 7:49 pm AEDT

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Just found out the friend keeping my darling company today was able to arrange a councillor appointment at the local womens health, and with someone she believes will be a good fit for my darling. They refused to talk to me when I tried (seems they take a dim view of husbands telling their wives they need counselling) and it was all too hard for my darling to follow through on. Trusting that this encounter will be more productive than the last attempt.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor13 Feb 2018, 7:55 pm AEDT

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Positive for today

My mum-in-law went in to hospital for an exploratory procedure this morning and has found out that was feared may be returned secondary cancer is instead some sort of fungal infection. Still not good but antibiotics much better proposition than anothe round of chemo.

She was expecting to come home by lunch time but will instead spend the next week in hospital on an ab drip.

Further testing re cancer upcoming but looking less likely. Such a relief...

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DeterminedSenior Contributor16 Feb 2018, 9:05 pm AEDT

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DeterminedSenior Contributor19 Feb 2018, 6:02 pm AEDT

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@Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Shaz51 @soul

Big positive for me today...

Finally got the seepage drain on our septic system mostly finished today. Thanks to the very generous loan of a tractor with a front bucket from our neighbor.

I don't know how I ever thought I would get it done with a wheelbarrow and shovel when I see how long it took with the tractor. Just have a little tidying up to do with our own tractor later in the week. (Different tool attachement).

Was hoping mybdarling would be relieved but she seems to have moved on to the next worry now 😞

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 Feb 2018, 6:11 pm AEDT

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S2 met his new gp today, and likes him.-- that is good news @Faith-and-Hope

would be relieved but she seems to have moved on to the next worry now -- sending you knowing hugs my friend @Determined , it is for mr shaz to fix up when he is able

But Yesterday I fixed up one of his worries ,

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DeterminedSenior Contributor16 Mar 2018, 6:52 pm AEDT

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Feeling positive this afternoon as I am able to contribute to something that is important to me 🙂

I was able to attend a meeting this afternoon that was a youth engagement committee for the establishment of a youth mental health service in out town, (lol I am somewhat outside of the demographic they were expecting). I am excited that we will be able to link into this organisation with our newly formed mental health peer support group at the university that a group of students including myself have formed. It gives me a sense of satisfaction to be contributing to something for the benefit of others.

As an added bonus I found out about a support network for carers of people with mental illness in our own town. This is something I have researched and previously been told there was nothing locally... even within reasonable travelling distance, so I have received some personal benefit in seeking to help others, Now I eagerly await relevant contact information to be forwarded as there is at least one other student at the university that I know will benefit from this info.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor07 Apr 2018, 3:41 pm AEST

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Just got some results released online for a group presentation from a couple of weeks ago... 95%

Nothing like a boost in confidence right on cue ... definatly something postiive to share for today 🙂

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