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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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My positive for today,

Last assessment for the year...

Was absolute trype but it is done and submitted. Just hoping it is goodmenough to give me a pass for the subject. I think it will be a close call but it is what it is.

Find out results mid December.

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Hooray @Determined

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Another positive for today,

S2 had an appointment this morning out of town that I would usually take him to, because I was so far behind in my assessment my darling actually took him without complaint. She has not done a big drive like that in a long time (about 2 hour round trip) so I believe it will be a good confidence building exercise for her.

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🎉🎉 @Determined ....

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3 jobs down 😊

Made room to put the tractor under cover and tree cut down that was growing against the shed, and finally got someone out for a quote on an addition to the shed.

Self care for today was going to an early morning bible study that I have not been to for weeks and went for a half hour walk (5 laps around a local park).

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@Determined

Just to reassure I am not stalking you...

you have bee supportive towards my situation

I just wanted to say that if your wife holds up inside the home at times...I have done this many times in the last 3years..

going for a long drive to take son for appointment is a huge step forward for all of you

cheers

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Positive for today

Finally we have official confirmation that S1 enrollment into special school has been accepted. (School had accepted his enrolment but it had to be approved by the departmental nobs further up the tree). This is great news for S1 despite the fact that I am having a hard time accepting that it is necessary.

S1 has already been to visit for a transition day and is quite excited about his new school.

Really trusting that this will now take a load of anxiety off my darling..

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It is still 2 more weeks until we can meet with the school to formally accept (only due to finding a common available time slot) so expect there will be a level of anxiety for her untill that is done. (Official enrolment meeting is 2 weeks Friday)

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Positive for today and something that I am very grateful for. After a quite unpleasant week at home we managed to have a family day out on our boat today and it went very well. We made it home and everyone is still happy.

I was originally planning to go out by myself today to hide for a while but my darling decided she and the children would come with me. The day went much better than I expected even when the weather turned and we had waves crashing into our boat drenching us all everyone remained calm and happy. Usually that would send my darling into a spin but she was caught up in the boys excitement so actually enjoyed the bone jarring ride home desoite getting wet.

A typical 1/2 hour trip took us well over an hour. Somehow bub managed to go to sleep amongst it all. I was a little concerned to start with that he would be scared but he wanted more. Quite the little seaman. Would loved to have taken a video but we were all too busy hanging on lol.

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Finally got my UNI grades for the semester.

While far less that I had hoped for at the start of the semester I did better than expected on both at submission of the final reports. Didn't fail anuthing so pleased about that. 😁

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