BaileyboySenior Contributor
Oh no...menopause!!!
Is anyone out there willing to share their experiences with menopause and the relationship it has with MI, mine being ptsd?
Should I be scared?
Bb
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Oh no...menopause!!!
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Oh no...menopause--- ohh Yes Menopause @Baileyboy, me tooooo
Hello @Change123, @Mazarita, @Former-Member, @utopia 
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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A giggle for you all.
I'm in hospital and I looked up at the white board where they advertise groups and activities.
I read:
Sunday HRT Therapy 10 - 12.
And I thought weird they are offering that in a psych hospital - but yep I'll go to that.
Guess what it really said?
ART Therapy. Lol
I'm in hospital and I looked up at the white board where they advertise groups and activities.
I read:
Sunday HRT Therapy 10 - 12.
And I thought weird they are offering that in a psych hospital - but yep I'll go to that.
Guess what it really said?
ART Therapy. Lol
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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ha ha @utopia
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BaileyboySenior Contributor
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ART...HRT @utopia could probably have the same beenefits. Definitely go. Use all or imaginations.
Keep safe and well.
Bb
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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I'm sorry @Baileyboy. I posted my giggle comment but hadn't read your previous post.
Firstly I'd like to say all your questions are very valid and perfectly normal questions to ask. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to ask us.
Is the gp who over prescribed and belittled your menopausal symptoms - your ex doctor? Ido hope so.
Is your female gp your new doctor? Other than the comment she made about 'liking it' - does she normally respond in a way that is helpful and understanding?
A great place for you to maybe get the correct answers from is CASA -Centre Against Sexual Assault. I know they are in Victoria. If you are in a different state - then maybe @NikNik may know of a similar organisation near you.
From my experience - sexual type feelings are perfectly normal - even when single. Mastabation is also a perfectly normal and healthy activity and nothing to be ashamed of.
However, you were abused when young and again when older. These will have a big impact on how you feel about sex, whether the word or act. Or sexual type feelings.
Myself and others on here can tell you how we feel, but thd reality is we haven't lived your lifeand felt your emotions.
A CASA nurse is experienced specifically in the trauma of secual assault. And I think they might be the gentlest person, initially, to speak to you about how your body is responding to these new feelings / sensations. And also your fear of getting a period and of blood. They are experienced counselors & everything you are experiencing, they would have heard from some others who have gone through a similar experience.
Your feelings are normal. And I truly hope that you can find a CASA worker or similar who canhelp you eork out these iissues and maybe even direct you to the right resources regarding menopause.
Firstly I'd like to say all your questions are very valid and perfectly normal questions to ask. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to ask us.
Is the gp who over prescribed and belittled your menopausal symptoms - your ex doctor? Ido hope so.
Is your female gp your new doctor? Other than the comment she made about 'liking it' - does she normally respond in a way that is helpful and understanding?
A great place for you to maybe get the correct answers from is CASA -Centre Against Sexual Assault. I know they are in Victoria. If you are in a different state - then maybe @NikNik may know of a similar organisation near you.
From my experience - sexual type feelings are perfectly normal - even when single. Mastabation is also a perfectly normal and healthy activity and nothing to be ashamed of.
However, you were abused when young and again when older. These will have a big impact on how you feel about sex, whether the word or act. Or sexual type feelings.
Myself and others on here can tell you how we feel, but thd reality is we haven't lived your lifeand felt your emotions.
A CASA nurse is experienced specifically in the trauma of secual assault. And I think they might be the gentlest person, initially, to speak to you about how your body is responding to these new feelings / sensations. And also your fear of getting a period and of blood. They are experienced counselors & everything you are experiencing, they would have heard from some others who have gone through a similar experience.
Your feelings are normal. And I truly hope that you can find a CASA worker or similar who canhelp you eork out these iissues and maybe even direct you to the right resources regarding menopause.
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BaileyboySenior Contributor
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Thanks so much for your time and thoughts @utopia especially as you are in hospital yourself at the moment and need to be mindful of your own needs.
The dr in question is no longer my doctor but is still practising at the surgery I go to. I met him on the street recently and he actually commented how much he missed our " talks". They actually went on twice weekly for 15 yrs. How dumb was I? I actually don't know how he is practicing at all, although he is one of the partners. My sister works in aged care and received a personal letter from the board stating what he could and couldn't do as a gp. Apparently anyone working in this area were advised of the general situation so Iguess I was not the only one but that doesn't make it any better, does it?
My new gp took on my case basically because noone else would but we have formed a working relationship, sort of. She was quick to get me to a ptsd specialist psychologist so she wasn't left with the mess, or that's how it felt. She usually isnt so blase with her comments although she was under the pump getting ready to go overseas for 4 weeks but I did feel really dirty and couldn't find the words to explain.
This organisation CASA sounds like exactly what I need but I am in country NSW, not many resourses available at all. Is it alright to email Niknik about this? I know I shouldn't feel ashamed of my body and how it works but a mirror gives me the willies Afterall the priest involved told me again and again that even if I was not always fat I'd always be ugly and only he could stand that. Iguess some things just stick.
The closest physical contact I get comes from my dog which is fine at the moment but how do I know if I miss something if ive never had it in the first place? My bro-in-law tries to give me a hug on bdays etc and I pull away but even female hugs seem to have gone out of bound. I don't know what's wrong with me.
I don't really understand the whole menopausal thing except that my gp gave me a survey to do and said id I reached a score of 16 we'd worry. I got to 31 and hadn't answered any of the sexual based questions. Luckily, or not she forgot about it in her hurry to get away.
I obviously need someone to discuss all this with and here has already helped so thankyou. Unfortunately just had bad news that someone who I considered a 2nd mu (my mum died when I was 26) passed away today so I am all over the shop. Way too much to deal with as I'm sure you know about. Will be looking towards any more advice that you can send my way. Don't worry about the giggle. gave me a laugh when I needed one.
Take care of yourself @utopia and thankyou again. Sleep well.
Bb
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Change123Senior Contributor
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Hi All
Well I had my haircut the other day and it was so funny, 4 women in their including the hairdresser and what are we are talking about MENOPAUSE!! it was good one lady who had been through it and 3 of us who are going through it.
The lady who had been through it went on HRT until she finished menopause and was glad she did this, another lady just started peri-menopause and went on HRT after 12 months. My hairdresser was told by her female gp that she needs therapy because her hormones are not showing menopause (neither does mine) and me.
I finished my period for the 2 time in 3 weeks and then I started two days after for a day and finally think I'm finished. My brain was all over the place on the weekend. I nearely started something with my partner but as soon as I realised I stopped so hopefully not much damage done. I will see how I go the next month if I continue ot have problems I will see my GP about hrt.
@Baileyboy sorry to hear about yoru loss - hope you are ok.
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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hi @Baileyboy
One suggestion I have is Blue Knot (http://www.blueknot.org.au/) they have a phone line, so they are accessible all over Australia.
Hope this helps
Nik
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BaileyboySenior Contributor
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Seems like menopause is catching @Cahange123..don't think I'll need a haircut in a while...lol.
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Change123. There was a bit of talk of menopause and hormones in general - & how it can effect our moods. Those like me - struggling with the temperature in the hospital while having another hot flush & the younger ladies whose can struggle with their moods depending on the stage of their menstral cycle.
