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Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

For Topic Tuesday this week, @Former-Member and I will be hosting a session for people who are caring for men who aren't caring for themselves.

Whether it be your partner, brother, friend or son, it can be tough when someone you care about won't seek help.

Join us from 7pm AEST to be part of the discussion - ask questions, learn some tips and most importantly, be around others who are going through the same thing.

Two things you can do now

1) Hit 'Like' below to get an email notification on the night

2) Can't make the session? Leave your question below to be answered on the night

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Sissy88Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

well I would like to thank everyone now I dont feel like Im the only one livingin a circus under the same strange laws

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

@Faith-and-Hope That's incredibly tough. Not only are you having to worry about his MH, but also it's having such a big impact on you personally.

You have created a good segue into the most important topic of the night, which I think a lot of carers dismiss because they feel as though their loved one is the priority.

I'm referring to Self-Care

Is anyone actively putting time aside to take care of themselves?

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

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Unknown userMember

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

Finding the right balance is important, I think these boundary things take a lot of time and practise 🙂

I wonder if there may be some helpful pointers in the boundary setting blog? I know I have found it helpful to work one on one with people when learning how to set boundaries, possible avenue to explore within therapy perhaps.

Thank you for comments on boundaries @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hopeand @Shaz51, sorry if I missed anyone.

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

You're very much not alone @Sissy88 !!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

Not as we ought @NikNik, @Former-Member

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

Maybe you could make a commitment now to do something for yourself in the next 24 hours @Shaz51
If you want to share it here, I'll hold you to it 😉

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

ha ha @NikNik, I can`t think of anything at the moment

any suggestions @Former-Member, @Sissy88, @Mariah, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member and everyone xx

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soulSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

How about booking a massage, facial or manicure @Shaz51?

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neenb80Casual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

I've been reading here and there throughout the discussion tonight (in between putting small children to bed) - the links are very helpful, thank you. My husband has depression, being diagnosed after about 2 years of suffering and not seeking help. Ever since it's been a battle for him to stay on his meds, as at the end of every script he does not renew for a week or two then starts again after things get tough. He was doing CBT but after five sessions and going back to the gp in Jan for a MHCP has not. We are in couples therapy as it's affecting our marriage so much. He's back on the meds at the moment so things are a little better but it's so hard to stay in this cycle of him not wanting to help himself as it really affects him so much. I'm doing everything I can to support him but feel like I'm losing myself in the process.

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Sissy88Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring for men who don't care about themselves // 27 June, 7pm AEST

I think @@Faith and hope's comment about setting boundaries and doing your own thing is great advice because you have to live with it and have an escape route to remind yourself your sane and there are other sane people out there that empathise and understand what it's like. I see a pshycologist because as victims of mental health we need professional advice and guidance so we don't drown in the problem and lose our own sanity

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