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Long Term caring and it's problems

Long Term caring and it's problems

Hi everyone, I am hoping to get support and advice from other carers. I have been a carer since I was 10 for my mother, then my husband and also my daughter. My mum is 94 and now in a aged care home but relies only on me. My husband passed away. My daughter is 29 and has an intellectual disability, depression and anxiety.

It has all finally caught up with me and I am suffering from depression. I do not work. My daughter has been living out of home for two years and I am considering moving her back home because I don't seem to be able to look after myself, only someone else.

I really would love to hear from other long term carers to see if what I am going through has been experienced by others and they could offer me some advice.

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Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

good morning @JoJo99

No need to apologise @JoJo99,my friend

I hadn't used a forum before finding this one either, My husband was in the MI hospital , I came on here the night we came home with soo many questions with no answers , decissions , I just didn`t know what to do next

so sending you a knowing hug

and you can keep talking to us here until you find your feet , that is what I did

hope you were able to have some sleep last night

you are not alone my friend

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thanku, that means alot x

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Hello there, you might experiencing sadness but hey you've worked since you are 10 years old and that is taking of your mother. It's the most rewarding job of all. You should be proud, others can't do that. You a guiniune love and that is adorable.

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Love your profile pic @JoJo99. Great motto to follow too.

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thanku it is one of my foster dogs 🙂 @soul

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thanku for that @AshEasy @soul @Shaz51@Faith-and-Hope, feeling rather weary of it all, it's really a never ending lifestyle. I want my daughter to be very independant from me but I just can't let her go. Plus she needs the help. I am going to move her back home but with her support workers in place. She can't seem to cope at all on her own when they go home. I was surprised she was so excited by it, I must say I did wave a dog in front of her !! She is going to take on my latest pooch for her own. Indi is like a therapy dog, very relaxed and soothing so should be a good fit for her moods. omg they made that pic huge

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@JoJo99 Sounds like a good plan and with your daughter having Indi as company that may give you some additional respite. Hope it all works out well. I know the dynamics change somewhat when family members live together after having been apart for a while.

I just choose medium when I'm posting photos. Seems to be a suitable size.

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@soul wrote:

@JoJo99 - this is what you are looking for:-


brilliant help @soul

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Hello @JoJo99

how are you today xx

love your picture of the dog

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hi @soul I will make sure I pick Medium next time !!

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