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Is it weird that id like to make amends with people both on the forums and off here? @Faith-and-Hope@Determined@soul@Former-Member@Anony18
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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No @outlander, it's not .... but it is tricky cos not everyone wants to make amends, and that can be really really hard when you're a person who feels they have to be able to make amends to be able to cope ....
Here are some tips .....
Tread very cautiously in approaching those people again, and it's better to just stay in the background until you are able to work out whether they are open to making amends or not. If they don't seem open to it, don't push it or it can turn much worse, and quickly .....
Find ways to self-soothe to help take the sting out of it for you .... think of a bee sting, and having to remove the stinger and then apply salve of some sort ......
Remain polite and respectful as much as you are able to .... it helps to maintain your own dignity and rise above what has happened .... and then carry on in your own integrity with people who are welcoming towards you. Those who want to see value in you will ..... those who don't, or who want to stand back from you will also.
We can't possibly be friends with everybody .... but we can be friendly towards everybody if we choose to be.
Does that help ?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yes @Faith-and-Hope makes plenty of sense. I think its best to just stay in the background until maybe they approach me... as much as id like to jump back in i dont want to push things. Im already on tiptoes walking on ice so im trying to find my pen groundings again so i guess its still best to wait until others are comfortable as well. I try to stay as respectful as possible i don't like conflict and id rather just be nice rather than make things worse. I have too much other streas to put my neck out and it get copped rather than just wait and slowly ease into things again ❤❤❤
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I know you have had some upsets that caused a bit of melt-down here and there a little while ago, but it is very clear that you are being respectful and courteous @outlander .... ❤️
Just keep being you Hon .... everything will settle in.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope and i am trying very hard ❤❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ice decided on monday im not going to have the exam but i am going to go and have a bit more of a chat and tell her my concerns as well What do you think @Faith-and-Hope@Determined@soul@Former-Member@Former-Member@Former-Member
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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That sounds really s bauble @outlander .... wtg .... you're taking ownership over this .....
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Not sure what that means @Faith-and-Hope
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I'll try that again ....
That sounds really sensible @outlandwr ....
"Taking ownership" means that you are taking charge of a situation that is about you and for you, and making choices that result in it happening in a way that you are more comfortable with, rather than other people making those decisions over you and you feeling like you have no choice.
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