Hi @outlander
I felt furious for your sake when I read that you don't even have the privacy of your underwear drawer - that is so invasive I would have to find a book to find enough adjectives - oh man!! - I had some of that crap myself
At least I could lock the doors on my wardrobe that had drawers and shelves as well as hanging space - but still my lil sis got into my stuff until dad built a cupboard in the laundry to lock our stuff away in - his stuff, my stuff, my brothers stuff - cause little madam was just about as sneaky as your little madams - but at least there was only one of her - and Dad took our side a lot
It makes a difference
I read some of your posts over the last few days - I felt too useless myself to reply - I was safe though - just caught up with my own personal past that will never go away - this I know and understand
But still - as belated as my anger on your behalf is - it's real - it will be so much better for you when you can get to have your own life with it's own privacy
Hugs - Dec