Carers under 30...

Caring isn't for everyone, but I think no matter what we do our confidence can fluctuate and there are times we doubt our abilities @outlander.

I think I view myself primarily as Mr Darcy's wife not his carer @outlander and whilst I do have some frustrations (don't we all?) continue to love him dearly, he is an equal partner and I do try to ensure that I do not take over.

I totally agree @Former-Member, I try to do actually the same with Mr shaz

@outlander, You are doing a wonderful job as carer for your Pop and your pop is unwell as well which makes it hard

I am finding it more and more with my mum , as I am not her carer but still her daughter , and I can see things starting to get worse , and mum said today she was getting worse

at the moment I am still ensuring that I don`t take over mum`s indepentace but in the future it will change like your situation with your pop

one day at a time my sister @outlander and sometimes it is hard to find that right balance

When we are unwell things can seem a lot worse than they are @outlander. Being a carer though, there is opportunity to have part time work which can give you options should you wish to transition to an alternative career.

Having a cross over in posts here @outlander. Any relationship has the potential to break down and doing things in love and keeping communication open is the key.

bugger lost the post..

i guess that is where im the odd one out abit, i dont care for my partner though if i did i think i did i would be the same and have them as a partner first. i try to see pop as a pop first rather than a care recipient, i guess it just gets hard when all my roles now are only associated with caring instead of being a grand-daughter.

i dont really have time for another job, i work with pop, have siblings, study and work with horses as well (both paid and my own)

maybe a new day will bring some light an then i can start again...

@Former-Member@Shaz51

In many ways, even though it is not a partner you are taking care of there are many things that carers across all relationships experience. We think we like to think of our granddads as benign loving oldies who adore us but the reality is they can be grumpy old men @outlander as can our husbands. 😀

Being intentional in caring is things like getting Pop a cuppa and a biscuit, but smiling and letting him know as he is your grandpa you got him his favourite biscuits or let him have two.

Being a carer though is running through a weekly schedule for appts, gritting ones teeth when our loved ones are being stubborn but being a grand daughter is letting you know you love them and you have their best interests at heart and that you are there for them. Most of the things I do for Mr D is what I consider to be the norm for a couple but do step up when he struggles. I mainly use the term carer for medical as there is the carer recognition act and associated obligations.

I am fortunate that Mr D is so lovely and does involve me in his medical care.