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DogMan's Journal

DogMan's Journal

I seems that weekend coffee threads are a thing of the past. Which were my main space to share about myself

I thought I'd start my own thread. My username is a reference to the AFL team. I don't have a pet dog. I love dogs, but live in a small unit with 2 cockatiels (Collectively known as "The Chook Mans")

I've been in the mental health care system since 2003. At that time, I really hadn't seen any doctor for 12 years. The family who adopted me in my adolescence never once took me to a doctor

2003, during my honours year in a Fine Arts degree, I presented at uni health services in a mess. I said that I was embarrassed to be there, I requested a female doctor. So I think they assumed I had issues with my junk. And she quite taken aback when I mentioned psychotic symptoms

I was referred to CATT. Lots of it was done by phone. I had an in person appointment with the CMHT. The psychiatrist there said she suspected Schizophrenia. We negotiated no hospital as long as I gained weight prior to next appointment (I had some funny ideas about food and farming)

The antipsychotics made me very hungry. So that was rather easy

I did manage to graduate. My 4th year marks weren't great. Then I sort of accidentally met someone who knew someone looking for casual staff in childcare. So I applied and worked in childcare. Progressing up through ful time permanent staff

I moved a lot in Canberra, but did okay for years

2009 I had a big relapse. I took 6 weeks off work. I did have that much leave accrued. Since I rarely took leave. But when I returned, the dynamic changed and I was on the outer. My job became untenable

I moved to regional victoria and enrolled in a Master of IT (A conversion masters. So similar to undergrad but shorter. Which is possible if you have a degree in another discipline)

Mid way through, my housemate left chips cooking on the stove and accidentally burned my house down

So I took an early exit point of a Postgraduate Certificate. I contacted my mum, who I had had very little to do with since I was adopted in the early 90s (It's a long story)

I briefly stayed with mum by the beach

My sister got divorced around the same time. So I found somewhere to live with my sister in Melbourne. It didn't last long, the landlord developed the property into apartments

A period of couch surfing and homelessness followed

My (bio) mum's health had deteriorated and doctors recommended she didn't live alone. We moved into Social Housing together. We moved here in 2012, mum died in 2024, which was apparently her record for staying in one place. I'm still in the same unit and it's my record too

Lockdown broke me. I've seen various outpatient services. And professionals have played "Musical Chairs" with my diagnosis specifics. They all agree on Schizophrenia and Seasonal Affective Disorder. But other additions include OCD, PTSD, OSDD, ASD and others

I've been with my current psychologist since 2022. Which is a record for me. I've had longer dealings with psychiatrists, but not psychologists. I don't currently have a psychiatrist. But my GP formerly worked in psychiatry in the UK

My Psychologist is trying to get me into a psychiatrist. They keep deeming me "Outside their scope". I'm currently being referred to the local CFMHS Forensic Service. The "Harm OCD" is currently being viewed as actually potentially dangerous

I do a monthly zoom peer group for voice hearers. I think next Monday is our next meeting

My team want me to apply for the NDIS. They actually signed me up without my consent in 2018. I was grandfathered onto the scheme from it's predecessors. I opted out straight away

So that's a bit about me

@fluttershy1 @taali @cuddlebear @chasingsunsets @missgremlin @dimity @appleblossum @nala2022 @bow @captain24 @jynx @smilinggecko

I don't really know who to tag. I've generally aimed for active people who are generally nice to me

Picture of chook mans:

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What happened to viewing people's account pages ? Did they change that ? Used to be able to see when people logged in and when they are online and what they posted

Is @outlander still around these days ? @Shaz51 @Jacques 

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umm i have not seen @outlander around for a while @MDT since the big forum update.

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@DogMan79 Thanks for sharing so much about your life. What an interesting story, you have certainly been through a lot and faced (and come through) some pretty difficult challenges. Well done on the programming - that is pretty impressive to learn to code.

Its interesting you mentioned how Lockdown "broke you" - it certaintly altered the lives of many in a not-so-positive way, I'm sorry you found it so difficult - it was a pretty hard thing for so many. I know for myself, how challenging it was - I actually broke two small bones in my hand thanks to frustrations of having to ring Centrelink a number of times and getting cut off (I pushed off from my office chair in anger, only to jamb my hand in between the desk and chair and snapped two small bones! Isolation does funny things to us, I get it my friend. I am glad you are getting some help for your challenges. Take care of yourself and thanks again for opening up my friend.

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Hi @DogMan79

Thank you for sharing so much about yourself with the community and giving us a little insight into your story. You’ve clearly been through a lot over the years, and I really appreciate you taking the time to share it with us. I hope having your own space to share about yourself here gives you that same sense of connection you enjoyed from the weekend coffee threads

And I have to say, “The Chook Mans” 😂 I love it! Your cockatiels are very cute

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Sending a weekend cheerio @DogMan79 .

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Hi@DogMan79,

Sweety on the left and right. Tiels are adorable and have big personalities and attitudes. They are the spitting image of a pair my grandparents had.

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@DogMan79 Hello my friend. How are you doing? I love your chook men’s! The Western Bulldogs are awesome :) You’ve had a lot in life since being a child. Yet you’ve achieved so much and are such a decent and wonderful human. Is there a reason you want to share on why you opted out of NDIS. It isn’t good no one asked for your consent to have an application for the Scheme put in. I am on the NDIS. It’s helped but unfortunately it has just been gutted and significant cuts to supports for participants are about to happen & around 300,000 people with significant and permanent booted off by 2030. I like the sound of the online group you attend. Do you find it helpful to connect with others with lived experience? Sounds like you’ve got a psychologist that’s a good fit? Personally found it very hard in public system to get any ongoing help for me. Looks like I’ll be going into psychiatric for a while. Not gonna lie scares me.

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Hmmm I’m trying to favourite your journal thread. I can’t find the favourite click which has normally been a heart. Anyone know how I can favourite this?

@Dimity Hello friend. Just want to know how you are doing? Saw your post here. :)

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Hello @Cuddlebear I'm ok thanks, pushing uphill but not as much as you. Hope things get better for you.

Favourites and subscriptions are hard to find for us folks with bad eyes. There are 3 black dots in a grey circle button in the top righthand corner above the title of DogMan's thread . Click on that button.

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@Dimity Pushing uphill is hard no matter what anyone else’s pushing uphill looks like. You don’t have to talk about it if you don’t want to but I am here and can be very supportive. Thank you for the help in finding the favourite. I couldn’t figure it out even with the magnifier but then your step by step guide helped me find it. Thank you. Do you have low vision?

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