I'm back @Zoe7 @Former-Member and @CheerBear.
@CheerBear Please do not post while under the influence!!! Disappear back under that like button right now!
@Zoe7 and @Former-Member I see you are laughing at the Aspie who is sitting there going what...what did I say that was so funny. Really, you are both as bad as K and my turtle whisperer!!!! 
Anyway...so...I had a phone call, and then I rushed out and bought this:
I am superly duperly hurt and superly duperly confused. Nothing about this muddle makes sense to me. But realistically, it isn't going to get fixed until NikNik gets home. Waiting is HARD. It is so so so SO HARD. I was all set to wait this afternoon and then I got hit with another random unexpected change by way of the guidelines being edited. That wasn't ok.
I am not ok with what has happened in Forum Land in the past week. I am really really really not ok with it. But I am going to choose to press this super cool pause button on trying to unmuddle the muddle, until NikNik gets home. This is going to be HARD. So so so SO hard. But I am going to do it because I truly believe that Forum Land is the most amazing resource, and right now, it seems that all my attempts to unmuddle the muddle are just making the muddle bigger.
I am in THE WAITING PLACE for two whole weeks. That's a loooooooong time - but perfectly doable. This entire situation super super super sucks...but I choose to hit the pause button until NikNik comes home.
@Zoe7 @Former-Member @CheerBear I'm super hoping that you will join me in hitting the pause button so that we can practice our waiting skills together. This is hard. This is so so SO hard. But it is not forever. It is just until NikNik gets home. That gives us lots of time to manage our big feelings so that we can use our calm voices to talk about the muddle. We can do this. We've got this. 