Riding a wave

@CheerBear @CheerBear

Hi CB

I am still going to be guided by whatever you and little turtle decide - I am not in any position to make decisin about anything just yet and for probably the first time in my life I am trusting other people to make those decisions for me - I hope this is ok for the time being.

If you can no longer find the handouts and worksheets online then I am happy to scan and post those for us ( have that book also so it is an easy thing that I can contribute).

My concentration for 'anything' for any length of time is pretty non-existent so happy to work slowly or just bits and pieces with you both as I can manage. I definitely do not want to hold either of you back in this adventure, that is why I am relying on both of you to lead the way and for me to do what I can when I can. I hope that is ok with you both.

Good evening to everyone out on the ocean. I am super struggling after my change-the-world-adventure. I cannot begin to tell you how close I came to calling someone a melted snowflakey banana head!!!!!!!!!! The only reason I'm pressing on with this adventure is because it gives me a chance to practice my distress tolerance skills. Yeah...they were super pushed to the limit tonight -grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

I am too sleepy to say much right now, but I did want to whisper something to @CheerBear: guess what CheerBear? Nobody will know how fast you zoom through the DBT skills manual by yourself at home. If you finish the entire manual before we even finish the first module in Forum Land that will be a bazillion percent ok. Oh and I definitely agree about asking open questions.

@Zoe7 I am wondering if we may all end up in gaol for breaching copywrite laws if you scan and post the worksheets in Forum Land??? I was thinking that we would post the link to each worksheet as we go. I wonder why you can't seem to find the link anymore @CheerBear. I am too sleepy now, but will suss it out tomorrow.

With this bit of guidance, do you want to have a go at doing the first bit of the doing bit CheerBear? I don't mind doing it, but I figure we should decide so that we don't both spend ages on it. Do you want to have a look at what you feel you could cover in a post-for-the-week post and then I will pick up from that point and start working on the next week? I'm hoping we might get into a rythem in time such that we both kind-of have two weeks to prepare the next bit by alternating bits - until @Zoe7 is feeling well enough to jump in and do a bit too.

Good night Forum Land. Look, I think I can see @Former-Member zooming around the ocean in her brand new bubble!!!

Good night @Former-Member. Super big thank you for watching over the ocean tonight.

Good morning @CheerBear, I am more awake now than I was last night. I have to say, when the person said the unbelievably unhelpful thing they said at the change-the-world adventure, thinking of them as a melted snowflakey banana head helped me to have a tiny little giggle to myself and thereby avoid descending into chaos in that public place. I am definitely putting that phrase in my toolkit for how to self-soothe when people say super gigantically triggering things.

I totally get what you said about the DBT adventure being energizing. I find that too. I think like you, it gives me a sense of inspiration and motivation. As I think we all know by now, my lack of employment prospects is a super gigantic issue in my world. Thus to me, the DBT adventure is kind of a "job" which gives me a sense of purpose etc. I super love the fact that you are a bouncy energizer care bear.

CheerBear it made me giggle that you commented that you think you are the odd one out (because you bounce and @Zoe7 and I plod). So...you think you are the odd one out. Zoe has said before that she thinks she is the odd one out. I don't feel like the odd one out...which makes me the odd one out because I'm the only one that doesn't feel like the odd one out. So...what does it mean if we are all the odd ones out? What are we the odd ones out of? Methinks all three of us are just odd.

I think the open questions idea will super help break down the sense of a private conversation - especially if we've also established that it is ok to tag people into the post. And once we start the actual doing, I figured that we would be sharing about how we are going with the doing (as much or as little as we want to share in Forum Land).

I will now wander off and see if I can find where the link to the handouts is hiding online...

@CheerBear and @Zoe7,

I found the online resources fine. You need to put the address in the browser address bar - it won't work if you put it in the search field.

See if this works for you: https://www.guilford.com/companion-site/DBT-Skills-Training-Handouts-and-Worksheets-Second-Edition/9781572307810

NOTE: I just tried clicking the link I inserted here and it took me to an error page. HOWEVER, I then copied and pasted the link into the browser address bar and it worked fine. I don't know enough about magic internet stuff to understand why this is so. Maybe @TheVorticon might know??? Anyway, let me know if it works for you.

You need to register (which just means giving your email and creating a password).

I just had a look at the limited duplication license in the front cover of the book of worksheets and we definitely can't post scanned copies of the worksheets in Forum Land. If we did that @NikNik or @Former-Member might have to come and bail us out of gaol.

@Phoenix_Rising I am in total agreeance with you little turtle (omg that is twice today now - I really have been 'turtled' lol). I agree that we are all just ODD ...and to be super honest with you - I am very much okay with that

Just to clarify something - I did not mean that I would scan and post ALL the worksheets and handouts - just those that could not be found by members who are joinging us on our journey for certain parts. I understand that I in no way alluded to this in my post - that is my bad - too much of a rush to post and log off!! I am very well aware of copyright laws and feel very strongly that authors should be rewarded for their 'work' to be used (that is the reason I actually bought the book myself rather than finding the worksheets and handouts online). This is probably also a reason that my house is filled with more books than I have bookshelves (or even space) for them lol

Hi @CheerBear,

It super sucks that you are sitting with unhelpful energy from your broken alert panic escape danger alarm system today. I am still sitting with the how-the-hell-could-someone-say-something-so-amazingly-unhelpful feelings from last night too. So...I guess we can sit with our gigantic feelings together but not.

I super hope the inspection goes well and that the person is not a melted snowflakey banana head. I wonder who amongst us is going to crack first and use that term in real life.

Yay for not living on Venus. Seven days on Venus would = 40,824 Earth hours, which would = 243 Earth weeks, which would = 4.67 years. So once again, YAY for not living on Venus.

Definitely interested @CheerBear - send me the link