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Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

Rose2468Casual Contributor

Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

Hello 🙂 I'm just trying to figure out how to live and 'be' in the world post self-harming as someone with visible scars (I'm doing really well now). I'd be interested to hear how others manage disclosure and day-to-day clothing choices. More specifically:

- What you might say (or don't say) if someone notices or asks about them? and how to tailor this for children

- How you decide when to wear short sleeves vs long sleeves. Or should I be aiming for complete acceptance where I'm ok to wear short sleeves all the time no matter where I am?

- Lightweight long sleeve clothing options that work in warm weather, and also options to help cover the top half of my legs with clothes that actually look nice

- Any stores or brands that are good for breathable and lightweight clothes

- Any stories or advice about how you might have moved from a place of shame to acceptance around your scars

It's been such a difficult space to navigate and any help would be much appreciated! Thank you 🙂

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In response to: Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

Rose2468Casual Contributor

Re: Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

@EternalFlower Oh wow, thank you so much for sharing this! I wish the exhibition was happening this year. When things were bad, I found drawing really helpful but I love the idea of using cushions. Very creative

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ChasingsunsetsSenior Contributor

Re: Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

Thanks for sharing @EternalFlower, I actually recognise her name and followed bits and pieces of her advocacy work years ago, so I was surprised to see her name flick up in your link. The video of slice/silence was very moving. She has done amazing things despite what she has been through. 🙏

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EternalFlowerSenior Contributor

Re: Advice from people who live with visible self harm scars

@Chasingsunsets @Rose2468 @MissGremlin @FridgeMagnet she has some good resoureces - https://www.indigodaya.com/resources/ 🙂

thanks so much for sharing.

It isn't so easy coping with the scars, but we are brave everyday

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