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PerindoprilNew Contributor
Hi All,
I am going through a breakup- and it’s bloody hard. That’s not news to anyone.
I’m not really sure what to do with myself and what to focus on.
everyone says to focus on yourself- which is hard, when your whole focus has been on someone else.
I’m just looking to say hi and get some support and advice to get me through this hard time
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Insertnamehere-New Contributor
Hey there @Perindopril
Yes indeed they are tough and navigating the first few weeks as you adjust to the new situation is difficult, I am going through this as well and it’s the loss of the companionship and not having someone around that you have become accustomed to leaves a hole in your life that takes some time to adjust to. Filling the void with some supportive and understanding conversations such as this i think might be helpful for both of us as we transition to the new normal. I hope you are doing okay and i can assure you for whatever it’s worth you are not alone in this and time is a great healer as you adjust to the loss of someone who was a big presence in your life for better or for worse it’s an adjustment that takes a little time to process and fill the void with other fulfilling things. Not sure I have any answers or advice but I’m here with you going through the same thing and i can offer empathy and understanding of how hard it is to adjust but as i said time will lessen the impact as you adjust to the new reality. Hoping you are doing okay and sending my positive thoughts and best wishes to you.
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Mr_BeSenior Contributor
Same here. Mine was only a short one this time, but first time I've been able to let myself be real with anyone in years. Got used to being together, then self-destructed and now trying to figure out how to exist again. After a few weeks of moping around and clinging on desperately trying to fix everything, finally had to accept I just sh*t the bed and can't go back. Gave up pretty well my whole life for it. Destroyed my mind and body by trying to be too many things for too many people. Lost myself completely. Thought I'd had a pretty good handle on my own mental health issues up to now. Now I can barely even say I know who I am. Trying to get back into a routine. Literally just signed up to this service. Even one day at a time feels like too much sometimes. More like one moment at a time for now.
Anyway,you're not alone. Everyone deserves someone. Good luck, and just keep swimming.
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Hi @Perindopril ,
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