Avoiding Forum Land addiction

@NikNik, I'm pretty sure I don't over-estimate your wisdom. I'm just looking at your avatar...your head is strangely large in relation to your body. I'm sure that's because of all the wisdom it is filled with.

I figured out the idea of changing the email notifications pretty early on when I started drowning in emails (and it takes a lot of emails to drown a turtle!!!). It sounds like this was great advice for @Former-Member though. As well as doing what you suggested, I have also set the notifications so that I only get notified for "likes" and when someone tags me. I unchecked the box about getting notified if someone posts on a thread I have posted on.

I really like the fact that the little notification thingy appears on the computer screen now, as well as on the mobile. I find that helpful.

I'm very proud of myself for having stayed off here until lunchtime as planned. Now I am hanging out here while eating lunch - the only downside to that being that I think I'm getting vegemite all over my computer keyboard.

@BlueBay I definitely find setting specific goals helpful. It makes more sense to me to tell myself something specific like "stay off forum until lunchtime" rather than something more general such as "try not to check forum so often." That way I have a definite point at which I can celebrate having achieved my goal. Then I can reward myself and start on the next goal.

...and now I'm ready for my next super challenge of jumping off the forums until this evening. Hey @NikNik I think we need an "applause" button as well as a "like" button. I feel that I need a round of applause for achieving my goals. Hey @Zoe7, @Former-Member @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Former-Member @Former-Member (and everybody that I've just offended by leaving out) look at me, I'm super awesome...and modest...definitely modest.

That you are @Phoenix_Rising - that you are

*Zoe gives a super loud round of applause as @Phoenix_Rising leaves the forum*

@Phoenix_Rising rofl! ya ya ya no doubt about you being super modest.. nup no doubts at all.... but yay fabulous and just SUPER that you have that ringing applause in your ears for your achievement. I... will not be achieving said super achievement... but I have managed to sweep and mop the kitchen floor, in addition to the dishes and wiping out the fridge... so I'm kinda super awesome-ish... nah.. I'm not.. but ok it's something not quite super 😄

Hi @Phoenix_Rising @BlueBay and everyone else

I defintiely fit this category which is partly why I have now stopped myself from going on these forums and only occassionaly posting like now. I found that I was too involved with others, waiting on replies if I had issues and when I didnt I would get a bit upset thinking no one wants to talk to me. Of course that is not true and I know now that everyone has their responsibilities, jobs etc so I know now it wasnt personal. Whilst I have been off the forums I have found that this has helped me as well. I dont focus on my BPD issues so much and just keep trying to move forward, sometimes when I was in a rage at first it helped venting on here but then later I felt it made me reuminate more about those issues instead of learning to deal with the rage and feelings and let them pass. Dont get me wrong this forum is one of the best I have ever used but I also feel sometimes we need to stand on our own two feet when we feel strong enough. Taking a break from this has also shown me how strong I really am and that I can get through.

Take care all

@Phoenix_Rising I an admin for a couple of different Facebook groups, so I tend to keep an eye on those from time to time during the day (just making sure everyone's playing by the rules). That's why I flit between websites. If I had my way, I'd be here more often that not.