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IcecreamSenior Contributor
My family has a lot of stuff going on and I am the only one who is technically "fine", I feel like its all resting on my shoulderds tp be okay cause if im not then my family will just fall apart.
I really need to know, am I the only person who feels like this, or is it quite common?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
how are you going today @Icecream
anything planned
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Icecream
Part of the learning journey for me was accepting that it is sometimes ok not to be ok. And sometimes that delegating is necessary.
In response to: Feeling like you have to be okay
DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Icecream
It is often the case for me that if I am not smiling and happy people around me fall apart. So I just have to 'fake it until I make it'
Would be great to come home from work and say, actually I had a cr@p day and get a hug and some support, rather than trigger anxiety and meltdowns.
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