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IcecreamSenior Contributor
My family has a lot of stuff going on and I am the only one who is technically "fine", I feel like its all resting on my shoulderds tp be okay cause if im not then my family will just fall apart.
I really need to know, am I the only person who feels like this, or is it quite common?
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Anonymouse1000Senior Contributor
Hi @Icecream
Yes, I feel this way but I'm also sure that my partner feels this way as well.
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JynxModerator
@Icecream sounds like you are carrying a lot, and I do think it's a pretty common thing for sure. Sometimes if we carry stuff for others for a long time, it can end up overwhelming us, and we might end up breaking down - sometimes to the great surprise of those we've been supporting. Or we might see how exhausted and overwhelmed we've become, and try to pull back a little, which, for those who are so used to leaning on us, can be a bit of a shock. They might even feel 'let down', which can sometimes lead to conflict... even though we are always allowed to protect our own energy and take time to recharge and focus on our own needs.
Have you got anyone outside of your family who you can talk to about what's been going on, and how you're feeling?
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Lapis_AnteaterPeer Guide
Hey @Icecream
That sounds like a really tough position to be in. Too much pressure for anyone to handle but from my understanding it is a fairly common experience. I find myself pretending to be okay to make sure others aren’t worried about me as they have enough to worry about already (I have no idea how successful I am at hiding it though). You shouldn’t have to hold everything together by yourself though. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Does this forum provide you with any support? We are here to listen to you and do what we can to ease the burden. Please continue to reach out if you can/if you want.
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IcecreamSenior Contributor
I dont really have anyone that I talj to about this, I guess that why I joined thus forum, @Lapis_Anteater @Jynx
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JynxModerator
Glad you found the space @Icecream - I hope you find it a safe place to be able to vent, to be heard, and where you don't have to mask how you're feeling 💜
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
morning @Icecream
how is everything going this morning
you are not alone my friend , so many of us feels the same
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IcecreamSenior Contributor
Good morning to you to @Shaz51, this morning I have just sat in bed with my dog, contemplating life choices, what about you?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Thinking of having a second cup of coffee ☕️ for the day @Icecream
Was up very early this morning
Very wet here
Nothing planned here, how about you
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IcecreamSenior Contributor
@Shaz51
I will be meeting up with mu sister for coffee this afternoon. I have not seen her in a while so it with be nice to catch up.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
That sounds nice @Icecream
How's the puppy going
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