Depression- Really Struggling- may be triggering

Hi @Former-Member, I'm just jumping on and then jumping off the forum super quickly (reward for having ticked something off my to-do list). That sounds like a pretty clear and reasonable response from your psychologist. To me the thing that jumped out is that she said she believes you. Not being believed (or heard) is one of my super giant triggers so conversely, having someone say "I believe you" is super calming and reassuring for me. It also jumped out at me that she is saying she is working at getting a clearer picture. I would find that validating, knowing she was working hard at trying to get a sense of what is going on. Of course, this is just how I would experience the email based on my muddle. Your experience of it may be entirely different...which I guess goes to show how subjective things can be! Furthermore, I know I can experience exactly the same statements differently at different times depending on my own mood. Sometimes an email will be super gigantically triggering and I will go into total crisis...and then when I read it later in a calmer state, I realise that the big feelings were due to stuff going on inside of me, rather than related to what the person actually said.

Regarding the no email communication, that is one of those big muddles (for me at least) regarding boundaries. I am grateful that my psychologist and I have FINALLY found a happy compromise that meets my need for contact and her need to not get overwhelmed with my muddle. Our rules are one email per week and two voice messages which can be up to 3 minutes each. During my adventures of therapist shopping last year, I found that psychologists vary A LOT regarding what sort of between-session contact they offer. I find writing stuff down super helpful when I can't contact my psychologist. I then take what I've written to the next session with me. Some of the therapists that I sacked last year didn't appreciate me rocking up with pages of writing. They seemed to see it as a waste of time reading what I had to say. That didn't work for me, given that I communicate much more effectively in writing than verbally.

So...that's my thoughts about the email. I wonder what your own thoughts are @Former-Member???

Quick pop past between appointments @Former-Member

Hope you find something useful here. @Faith-and-Hope saw this that I posted on another thread and thought of you.

Be back later 😊

thanks @Faith-and-Hope@Phoenix_Rising

so i get the standards and boundaries shes setting are ok, glad i got that cleared up.

but i dont want to go back to her, i felt i was very judged and she wasnt listening to me when i was saying can we change the subject. im too on edge around her now and really uncomfortable... i think maybe i should change as i spoke to another counsellor through this program the other day when mine wasnt there and i quite liked her

what would you guys do if you felt you were going around and around and feel really uncomfortable with thsi but felt a connection between another counsellor?

@CheerBear@Faith-and-Hope@Phoenix_Rising@Former-Member

hi @CheerBear

ive decided to change therapists everyone

one thing after another today though

now more family things to deal with again @CheerBear@Faith-and-Hope@Phoenix_Rising@Former-Member

i sent my therapist an email. asking to change therapists and she just tried to rign me and said its ok if i want to change but i didnt answer the phone and now i ahve to call her abck and i really dont want to do that

@Faith-and-Hope

im panicking reallly really panicking , i dont want to ring her im too scared @Faith-and-Hope

and now im having family issues and i havent even been able to study yet and i ahve to get the kids soon and then ill have to watch them and i wont be able to study and everything is going down the sink!!!

hi @TheVorticon

i need to make the phone call so i can sort out counselors before my next appointment. as much as i dont like therpay session i still think i need them so i guess its still important

my sister wont even be able to pronouce the medical terms, im hoping i can get it done today if i can sort of a few family matters and hopefully no arguments between anyone this afternoon otherwise itll make me even more distressed