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ChrisSenior Contributor
I for one am plagued with negative thoughts. I feel tired of the struggle. I look and sound ok with people.At home its a different story. I'm stuck, big time.Unable to move. Just look at what needs to be done. To say the least its frustrating.
I've heard this phrase in dbt somewhere along the way.But what does it mean?How do make a life worth living.Open to comments.
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AonaranSenior Contributor
@justanother47yr wrote:
@Aonaran,
Love like plus on your inspiring message.
Thanks @PeppiPatty !
Your posts make me smile with appreciation (and not just when they're about me! Ha-ha!!)
Hope you made it through the Festival of the Foetid Bunnies okay! 😉
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AonaranSenior Contributor
Heya @NikNik , @Alessandra1992 , @kristin ,
Thanks for your cheeriness earlier in the thread. 😉
Apologies that I hadn't acknowledged them. Really. I'm a little lost at the moment in Idonwanna and Wazzapoint, the Scylla and Charybdis of my own mind's islands. so please forgive me.
I've never been one for computer games, but I've found two that have me entranced of late, wonderous examples of the "citybuilder" genre, and I'm spending a lot of time in their worlds. (They're from the Windows XP era, but still run on a modern PC; one's set in ancient Greece, one in ancient Egypt, and there are various scenarios to play, but all involve building cities and establishing industries and communities. You don't have to slay, you don't have to destroy, and there are no politicians or those bent on retribution. Industry, generosity and philanthropy are rewarded -- my kind of world!) It's like the playful equivalent of going to bed with my Kobo and pulling the covers over me -- these days, my idea of a good time! Ha-ha!!
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kristinSenior Contributor
Hey @Aonaran
No apology necessary! We all have our "off the air" times for various reasons. It's just good to see you around. Good to hear you've found a pleasant distraction too. I find it helps me calmmyself when I am in overwhelm.
Take care!
Kind regards,
Kristin
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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AonaranSenior Contributor
justanother47yr wrote:
I know for many years I've tried to stay in the background be kind be kind but still shouldered heaps ans heaps of blame from
Mum
Dad
Step mum
Dad in another country
Mum in law
Brothers
Boyfriends
That's such a hard one, @PeppiPatty . It's like people pick up their cues on how to treat us from the others around us, not from us ourselves. And we can be almost screaming, "please don't treat me this way!", and they don't seem to even notice they're causing us hurt.
The only way I've ever been able to make sense of it is the thought that humans are pack animals, and tend to follow someone else's lead without contemplating what they're actually doing. But, of course, it's sad.
And only until I pointed it out to me Mum what was happening last year.......she noticed. Now everything has changed.
Good on you. That's a brave and scary move, and it makes me genuinely happy that it turned out better for you. 😉
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Tight-ControlSenior Contributor
Hi Folks,
Im a newby so I what I say is dumb ..bad luck LOL.
I am a lover of words so I view" how do you create a life worth living" as simply this
"The life you have is worth living ".. It is not something you have to create ..be yourself and allow yourself to be..
dont punish yourself with expaectaions just reward yourself for the small and big victories.
Yes easier said then done ( I know).
I'm slightly up on the seasaw at the moment so am making hay while the sun shines ..
nice to have read through your coomments a great forum and some great people ..
Thank you all for sharing I feel less alone..Thank you for creating a life worth living.
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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