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Hi@Faith-and-Hope, @utopia, @Mazarita

I'm still not very good at 'navagating' this site, maybe that's why I kept trying 'instant' chat sites - they seemed easier. But I like that messages can be checked, that it's not instant feels like some sort of barrier against instant shock I suppose - though I know this is a public Internet site so anyone can use it. I also think, though I hate the term Mental Illness, as I think it takes all the physical out of it, that the people that cause trauma probably suffer from it, so they would have just as much right to use it. But I feel a bit like typing I think, so I thought I might just blurb a little?
I've went away for a few days. I go every month. I visit the center of my Universe 🙂 The one person who has been there with/for me, their whole life & I believe will remain that way until I die 🙂 . . . & quite the large Family they have provided for me to share in 🙂 I go from, it almost seems like another Planet sometimes, my life is very quiet; to the center of my Universe, which includes 5 grand-children ranging in age from almost 2 to, going on 18; then there's the partner, the partners Parents and a large variety of friends 🙂 I often find myself thinking 'alein sound dimension' - there's so much noise on so many different levels! Every single one of them has every gadget known to mankind, and most of those gadgets make noise! And my World is a lot calmer, with a lot less going on - we're usually driving in the car, taking children to school, doing whatever shopping is necessary for the day in time for whatever seemingly endless appointment is due, . . . by the time my alarm goes off to make sure I wake up in time to get tired in time to go to sleep in time 😄 There's no way I could keep that pace up anymore! After a few days I find myself almost running away with my tail between my legs 🙂 But it's the perfect balance really, I do spend a lot of time alone - apart from my 3 furry, four-legged friends; but I am extremely lucky, my bond with my only child is of a strength I can't see breaking; I get a phone call or text every night & welcomed by a dozen open arms and smiling faces every month. I am lucky, I have a good life. Well, I think life is just a word, neither good nor bad. I have good experiences and I am happy 🙂

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Good morning, Niqua

So glad the calls are continuing and getting warmer and more comfortable again for you and your child. Another fabulous gift for them, the dishwasher. Such a good and practical idea for your child's birthday. It will be of real benefit to that household.

Thanks for your encouraging words about my film/video screening. Yes, it's happening in Melbourne, probably while I'm going to be there (that part of the lining up of the stars not yet confirmed). It will be a scary experience to be there in person for it, but another I'm willing to override for the general yay-ness of it.

The ocean was quite warm when I went for my dip, the little waves close to shore delicious (I only dared go a little way in). Your account of floating in the waves sounds great, though it sounds like you used to go in a lot further than I would now.

Yes, I think that's what the gut specialist meant too: that I have both Crohns and Irritable Bowel Syndrome, but that my Crohns is in remission at this time. It's taken me some days to work out that this is likely what he meant, and I'm still not sure. That doctor's communication with me was so poor. There are also questions in my mind about that diagnosis for detailed reasons to do with my past health history with Crohns. Looking forward to speaking to my GP about it all when I next see her.

You are again right that my friend's housing situation does increase my fears about my own situation here into the future. I don't have the family supports in this area that she does. So if I became homeless here, there are no couches for me. The difference is that C is along for the ride too, which makes it seem easier in other ways. Though I'm the one who does more of the household admin type tasks, including flat searching when that is needed.

Wish I could see a photo of your dreads. I love the idea of them piled up like a beehive. This summer I too have been wearing my hair on the top of my head. Too hot to have it down much. With me though, it makes me look like more like a blonde samurai.

Tell me something about the birds where you are, the kinds you see and hear. Do you have currawongs there? They are my special bird. I love their song.

It's so good you tend to practical matters quickly. I no longer buy things from eBay in China either, for the same reasons as you, mainly the time it takes to get here and the lesser quality that goes with the cheaper price tag. I too have seen some dollars disappear into the eBay void. I totally agree about not always buying the cheapest. I look for quality I can afford.

Ciao for now, sweet friend. Lots of love to you, @Former-Member

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@Former-Memberis this ok?

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Hope you had Good Mornings Mazy @Mazarita, Claire @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope , @Shaz51 , @Bunniekins , @CheerBear and Everybody 🙂
{this post has taken too long for me to write to start it with 'Good Morning' anymore :D}

I think it's a good thing your going to the Doctor twice a week Claire, you have been suffering for too long, it's about time you were given regular observation and care!
It might be unusual & strange for you to be sleeping, but your body so desperately needs it! It's wonderful that it's happening 🙂 Don't give up on a regular health pattern to that sleep, but for now just focus on letting your body physically repair during that hard fought for slumber 🙂
It wasn't the markings so much that made me put that particular pic of the horse up; it was more the colour - I just kind of pictured the white star on the forehead in my mind 😉 Perhaps the face isn't seen in your picture, having you take the time and effort to get the markings the same would be extra special for me, particularly now that I've learnt what a 'Wild Bay' actually is . . . & that it's the markings on the legs that their talking about - am I right? The black bits don't come up as far?
I had a pretty good day yesterday, though it wasn't what I expected. I went into town {be it a little later in the day then I'd planned; not arriving at the mechanics until 11:30 am} expecting to drop off my car for maintenance and wander around my little, shops-along-one-street, town for a couple/few hours. I took my service booklet in with me, thinking that way I can get an actual number for the price before I walk away, instead I get, after my booklet gets glanced at; it couldn't be done as filters and the likes had to be ordered in. I had booked the car in there the day I had booked in for the tyres. I expected after giving the details of my cars make and year model & the number of kilometers for the maintenance; that the qualified, professional mechanic business man would have the resources to source the technical information & source the parts or at least have a quote ready for the day & date that had been written onto a card of that business by a member of the staff for me to return! But no, nothing had been done. I was asked if I'd mind leaving my booklet there so that the neccesary parts could be ordered and then told the earliest to return was Tuesday as there's Australia Day public holiday inbetween.

HAPPY AUSTRALIA DAY EVERYONE 😄

But I'd taken my library DVDs in to return as I thought I had 1 to collect, turns out I was wrong, but I grabbed my full quota of 5 DVDs while I was there; & ten had a bit of a summer shorts & a light cotton summer dress . . & a couple of toys for the fellas . . . & a few head scarves . . . & a couple of sheets {can't help myself in the place, I can't stop grabbing until I'm dropping things :D} from the local 2nd hand place 😉 [pretty silly thing to do really when I know I'm going back on Tues to wander my shops-on-1-street little town for real - but it was kind of what I had planned for the day ;)] I didn't take the dogs as I was expecting the car to be taken into the mechanics, so after grabbing a few grocery things from the local corner shop I headed home. Sat and unwound for quite a while, as it did blur things just a little when events didn't 'pan out' as I'd intended in my head. But I ended up getting on the roof and re-put-upering the back shade cloth (the old ropes broke a couple of days ago); & while I was at it I put a large car/camping side-awning{there was an Ebay oops, I ordered the biggest as it was the best value . . . but it really was too much bother to try and keep it up on the car! ;)} up out the front door too 🙂 Don't know how long it will last, but it's pretty dang good for now, I have both front and back veranders 😄 I have been 'getting too' a few things like the dishes and the washing, & yet not to others like the rest of the mowing & sweeping {I swear I have an allergy to that bloody broom!!! XD}

Loads of Love to you Claire
Nanny Niqua

They're not just words of encouragement, they're more words of total Awe!! when it comes to your film/video screening in Melbourne Mazy!:)! I think it might be like, you know . . . one of those lifetime moments - I really hope you do get to be there for it!!!
I'd have to say last nights phone call with my child was very good 🙂 The chaos has softened a little with school resuming and creating a sort of forced routine? The grandbabies have even done the dishes a couple of times! 😮 Arrangements have been made with 1 plumber & I've sent the details for another to be contacted [I would like at least 2 quotes to see if there's any difference]. The relentless hours that my Child agreed to are also about to lessen a great deal. What felt like a Tsunami Tidal Wave to me, was probably more like a little splash to my child. Though I still feel the need for an apology from my eldest grandgirl; we seem to be riding this one out fairly well?
I used to swim into the Ocean quite a distance when I was younger, especially if I had a floating device - but floating or swimming I learnt those 'rips', the fast-flowing water under the surface, which may not be noticable in any way on top of the surface - can get you, they grab on and pull with the very force of Nature & can make 'getting back to shore' extremely difficult and terrifing!!! I'm too old to even think of that sort of adventure anymore!!! 😉 🙂 Just walking along the shore-line where the little waves are breaking, is adventurous enough for me these days 😄
You, me and many, many friends, will be interested in what your GP has to say when you visit her next 😉 Hope it's all, if not good news, at least understandable and helpful ❤️
I can understand how having C along with you on you 'residential ride' is reassuring, a burden shared is a burden halved; but I think sometimes it may also be a burden doublely worrying ❤️
Never thought I'd be able to make a wish come true, & I suppose I'm not really 'cause you can't really see my dreads . . . but here's a picture of my silk-clad 'Beehive' today 🙂

You asked me to tell you something about the birds where I am. I would say I don't have Currawongs here as I can't say I remember hearing their call. But I have many, many birds and other wild creatures living around me. I've written a little list, just of the ones I could think of :-
*Emus
*Kookaburras& other smaller Kingfishers
*Indian Miners {which are considered a pest in my area}
*Blue-headed Fairy Wrens & other small finches
*Top-Notch & other Pidgeons
*Pee-Wees&Magpies
*Butcher Birds&Crows
*All sorts of Parrots, King,Sulfur Crested Cockatoos, Galahs, Major Mithchell & other Black Cockatoos
*Wood Duckes& other water birds
*Ibis&Quails
*Frog-mouthed Owls& others
*Small hunting birds like Kites or Falcons
* Wedgetail Eagles! & others.
I've also got tiny little insect eating bats the size of large moths! & sometimes the occasional big Flying Fox fruit bat fluttering by; & Laced sand Monitors (Goannas) & Brown & other snakes 🙂 There's Big Red and Grey Kangaroos + I believe 'Pretty Face' wallabies (which I think may be a little rarer?) and others too 🙂 We have a Dingo & Ferral dog problem out here, though I'm yet to see a dingo . . . I've heard they are naturally shy? and a Feral Pig problem as well, which, as you know, I'm very grateful only to have seen dead ones and their bones!
Wow! It's turned into quiet the list!! But when it comes to the birds, what I'd like to tell you is that for me watching them makes my mind feel freer and gives me a feeling of connecting with all the winged creatures 🙂
Well, I'm about 3 hours late for Potatoe hour! Not going to knock myself around about it though, because I give myself the approval to blabber to my friends today 🙂 I'm letting myself feel that connection and enjoy it ❤️
But I'd better get off here and do 'something' for the day . . .
I'm thinking of that bloody broom . . .
Love to you Mazy - if ever I hear a Currawong out here, I'm going to smile so big and I may even shout out 'Hello Mazy' 🙂
Niqua

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I can't see it yet Claire @outlander, but I'm hugely excited too 😄 😄 😄

A stinky smokers kiss to your forehead from your nutty Nanny Niqua

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good afternoon @Former-Member

thank you for you message and tagging me xx

Do you have willy wagtails where you are

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Yes @Shaz51! There's another one to add to the list 🙂

and a wonderful afternoon to you too Shaz

Thank-you for being my friend

[can't see the pic yet though]

Niqua

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I love birds and animals @Former-Member

and honey suckers too

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Afternoon Niqua

yeh I see the gp twice weekly, im over it already tbh or maybe its just this day. Its gone back to no sleep again but will probably start taking the sleepers again if I dont be asleep by a certain time tonight or before then....

there are many sorts of bays theres the dusty bay wild bay, mahongany, and theres another but cant think of what its called right now. Each bay is basically the same except for the shading. But essentially a bay is a bay. Brown horse with black mane tail and varying black length legs.

You cant see the star very clearly on my pic either but its there. Might do a head shot later. Thats the hardest part of them- their head as they look out of proportion with a small head and big body.

Glad you had a good day yesterday and your car is getting fixed- or in the process anyway.

Sounds like you had lots of adventures yesterday too hey. Housework is boring but is a must unfortunaltey. Im tempted to throw all our stuff away and buy plastic stuff. Solves the dishes problem!. We have mostly carpet here so vaccuming all the time esp with animals and dust around.

@Former-Member

hopefully the pic comes up soon its been 2 hrs since i posted it..

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Still not 'up' my end Claire @outlander 🙂 vision an impatient Nanny tapping old wrinkled fingers on the computer top 😄

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@Former-Member how come my pics not showing yet?
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