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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Woops
Fair point @Smc
I have freesia and dutch iris and felt that was enough of a gesture. For some reason I resisted the urge to put in tulips. I do have a tulip leadlight lamp in my piano room (not this one). It hangs close to a celtic leadlight that my brother gave me. He made them. That seems well balanced on a thematic, personal heritage and aesthetic level.
Woops that pic was bigger than I expected.
You are very patient @eudemonism. I am a bit uncertain about a cherry blossom I have that might get tied up in plumbing, but I am reluctant to pull it out. Growing one from seed can be good and when it gets to the time to plant you can assess the situation or maybe barter it at a market or something ..
Hello @Former-Member @Determined
My mood about the garden varies. Mine is looking a little dry and worse for wear and I will get to it when my energy is up for it and family and musical commitments reduce.
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I grew some fringe tulips a deep pink 'Curly Sue' and white 'Honeymoon' as well as some regular shaped red, yellow and white tulips. Two others I have and a fond of is a light pink 'Rosalie' and the white edged 'Claudia'
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I grew some red and white tulips so that they would be flowering at Grand Final time, was not overly successful in getting a good colour mix. Am thinking of trying different flowers.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Sounds as if you have a bit of space @eudemonism even if not much privacy. I was lucky in that with a tiny block it was easier to grow climbers all around and be well hidden with a couple tiny trees. But thinking back to how it was. It takes a long time. Good Luck Eude.
Bloomin Hell @Former-Member do you have to drag football into a perfectly beautiful grounded conversation ...lol .
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@eudemonism
Redbacks and White tips woul ot be welcome at my house..
even white tips can cause huge health issues..
intersting about the ants around trees.. We have a lot of that happening this season?.
let us know how they are useful..
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@Former-Member & @Smc
the tulips..
went to a beautiful garden area not far from east Perth....hundreds of tulips planted there..
so many other plant species..waterfalls
beautiful stunning place to visit..
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I like noticing the natural order and behaviour of plants, bugs and animals, but I can be a bit pie in the sky about them. @eudemonism It helps me guage my sense of reasonable, normal, natural, realistic, logical, acceptable etc. My father introduced me to things in nature without fear.
My mother use to say quite often that she was the "natural mother" in a het up voice, as she was probably angry about something a social worker said to her, so I also check up what it means to be natural. I have had a very weird life tho.
I have that sense of awe and respect before the householder in me that has to do all the tasks and manage all the consequences.
White tails and red backs bite people too and are not good too close to the house, tho. I still think it was pretty silly when a horde of teenage girls screamed about some daddy long legs in my house at a sleep over party for my daughters. A horde of teenage girls is much scarier than a wittle spider.
Last week I noticed some spider eggs in a cornice and my son easily swept them away .. rather than scream I turn it into a nature study .. not sure which is worse ... lol ..
I was very enthusiastic about bugs in my soil for a while. It had been mainly dead builders clay and I saw it as important signs of good soil structure .. which is good academia but shows that I had not grown up in nice houses with backyards and gardens .... as I did not have that way of thinking at all. Now I have been a gardener for 15 years ... I understand some of the concerns ... the look of a garden is not my highest priority.
Bottom line .. if its your garden ... do it your way .. its the best way to enjoy it, learn, try stuff. International Womens Day showed up lots of Australian female geologists ... well a few ... so I know I am not the only one influenced by such things ..
Your tulips were amazing. @Former-Member & @Smc Mine are just cheat tulips.
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