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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
very nice @Determined , our`s are not doing too welll , wondering weather to cut them down
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SheilaSenior Contributor
@Smc
I understand totally.
Gardens that can look out for themselves every now and then are good.
Especially when our whole existence is consumed by looking after someone else
And I have lost a few treasures in heat, and in frost.
But, bottom line. its a healthy hobby that gives us a small amount of joy . So , I am proud of my little garden. And I think we should all be!
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Ali11Senior Contributor
Would love a vege garden, but mostly indoor plants here. Looking after them does bring joy though, so beautiful to see them grow and change.
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Unknown userMember
@Smc was thinking pansies with asparagus, not onions with asparagus 😀.
@Sheila how do you keep the weeds down in your patch?
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Unknown userMember
@Shadow01
Come and meet some other gardeners 🐞.
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SheilaSenior Contributor
@Former-Member , I just pull a few weeds most days. But never am torally free of tge weeds. No magical method, just consistency.
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SmcSenior Contributor
@Ali11, there's one guy I follow on FB, James Wong, who's a botanist, and lives in a little London flat. He's gotten very adventurous with his indoor gardening, including growing plants in his coffee table, and making a pond garden in a biggish glass fruit bowl.
I'm not good with indoor plants, although if I didn't have any outdoor space for a garden, I'd probably organise myself to look after them a lot better. I would love to have a conservatory attached to the house, to grab some extra sunshine in winter. Then my potted "frost tenders" could live there during the cold months. I've got a leaf cardamon plant, a small curry tree and a few other plants that are really too tropical for Victoria, but I generally manage to nurse them through the cold months.
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SmcSenior Contributor
@Determined, maybe the trees just need some TLC. 🙂 Citrus don't much like our winters here, although I've seen some healthy and productive ones in spots that get a bit of shelter- near a house, or in a well hedged garden. I know some plants react badly to wind chill, so maybe that's even more of a factor locally than frost.
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Unknown userMember
Regular feeding, no grass around base as root competition, white oil for a number of pests also = happy citrus @Determined
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A busy gardening day today, finished pruning the rosemary today along with a standard rose, gooseberry & Chilean guava.
Mr Darcy dug up some irises for me (called Dutch iris but are a rhizome not a bulb) and I edged a garden bed with them. I also planted some bog sage divisions.
Trimmed a hedge and pulled up some weeds around the asparagus. Mr Darcy kindly picked up all the piles of weeds/prunings and then mulched a few beds.
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