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Starting over

Sadness2015Senior Contributor

Starting over

Any advice would be great - how to start over and how to learn how to trust....

My narcissist ex-husband kidnapped my young children 10 years ago and I have not seen them since... both of my best friends (25 years of friendship) deserted me in the next 2 years (both had their own issues that they were dealing with at the time).... having just arrived in a new country, I got no help and no support... and nothing has changed in the past 10 years.

Living with this grief for 10 years has affected my health physically and mentally - I now have chronic PTSD and chronic anxiety disorder.... after studying for 3 years to get back into the workforce, I was attacked my a child at school and injured badly - just been place on DSP 6 months ago.... I feel like my life is over .... I have barely agreed to a date in the past 10 years as I have major trust issues - I struggle to make friends or form connections as I have major trust issues...

I feel like I live in my head all the time - I have now started having dissociative episodes as well. My psychologist said it is my brain just shutting down as it can no longer cope....

Anyone dealing with this - please reach out - any assistance would be appreciative.

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Sadness2015Senior Contributor

Re: Starting over

@ENKELI - I have been forced into house sharing since I can no longer work for the past 3 years, since my workplace accident - I am seriously not enjoying it and have had to move multiple times for safety reasons. It is a joke what you get paid on DSP, even though I know it is more than Jobseeker - how are you expected to live on it.... my medical expenses alone in the past six weeks has been $1000 out of pocket, so thankfully I still had savings (from payout from my workplace accident).... I don't really have a life, as I can't afford to go out - and that pushes my anxiety over the edge ... as I do want to go out and meet new people - but it costs money to 'date', but I am also afraid of more people judging me -

Not working has affected my self-esteem and my confidence so much, especially now that I have been placed on DSP.

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