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Hi fellow Sane people Im really struggling with the disclosure of my sexual abuse and how to move forward. Yes im safe and all the right steps have been taken etc but im still struggling to move forward Im wondering what people have done snd strategies you've used in order to get through it?
Does it get easier over time?
Im very embarrassed and ashamed and scared by it and struggling so any help would be great. It would be great to know if there are any other survivors on here and how you are now and how it affect the way you live
how can i be a survivor Eth if he literally still live in me- from the HPV- i dont want to keep liiving in fear even though im safe. all these big feelings are scary and nothing i do seems to help anymore. i always try to do the coping strategies that usually work but they ahvent worked for a while now. everything just gets over powered and i dont know what else to do except to take them. i found when i was on the medications it helped and since being off them it like ive forgotten jsut how bad it all was and i cant cope with it. ooh @eth i do feel to blame though thats the problem- it wasnt like your or Li1's that it was sudden. i freaking said yes- how could i have done that- probably becasue i was scared and confused out of my mind- it makes me sick literally throwing up sick. and something so tiny has set it off. it was me remembering my drs appointment- thats all- but then it leads to the hpv then keeps going to my past. it never ends and it scares the crap outta me to think it may never end @eth
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ethSenior Contributor
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Hi @outlander don't stop reaching out. Be gentle with yourself.
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ethSenior Contributor
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I said yes when I was 13 so I do understand @outlander. He was much older and trusted. It was sa by law. I never told.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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My body liked it @eth😞 thats what makes me feel worse too Im still seekng my sa counselor i need to do it but im scared of going. Not of her but the box in my head with this stuff in it
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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It would be nice to even be semi comfortable in the same room as a male or rven stop freaking out knowing theres men in the building and not capping nyself that ones going to try and clean out the cobwebs in there @eth and maybe even ine day havr a normal relationship
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ethSenior Contributor
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I hear you @outlander. It will take time but the counselling will be a place to start. xx
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ethSenior Contributor
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Sorry @outlander My best friend from up north just rang me. Hope you get some sleep tonight. I am going to try soon.
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ethSenior Contributor
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Well .... 2 hrs sleep and here I find myself again. Been having a big time with memories the last few days, but especially late yesterday. Made a list in point form of the things I've had flashes of just the last few days and there are 7 different episodes of sexual abuse as well as a bunch of other traumatic events. And that's still not all of them. Oh dear it's no wonder I'm not sleeping much. Have to be so careful as that can be a bipolar hypomania trigger. After each of those events is when I've had my worst manias and psychosis and blackouts and memory blocks for years. It's no wonder I also have complex PTSD. @Former-Member@NikNik not sure who's on now but I need to talk to someone please.
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ethSenior Contributor
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Obviously no-one's around, not even a moderator. Don't know how I'm going to get through this alone.
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mufasaSenior Contributor
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Hi Eth,
Sorry you are struggling tonight I'm just sending you an email now!
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