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am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 4:57 pm AEDT

am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

hi guys

so ive really been struggling with my mental illness (i have 4) and ive recently disclosed another event as well. ive been told i should jsut get over it and just dont worry about it and im finding it really hard to 'just get over' im just wondering what others opinions are... do you think im just complaining?

ive also just discovered that i have a few physical health issues to deal with such as scoliosis, glasses, and a few of my main ligaments have been torn and have never been fully corrected as i never got a boot or anything to support it so now im stuck having a few torn ligamanents that will probably never heal so the pain that i feel will be constant unfortunately.

so i was just trying to have a conversation in general about my injury and treatment etc and she just rolled her eyes at me and said that i complain to much.. this is kinda the first times heard about it as i try not to complain about anything even when im struggling the most. even in my full panic state she usually jsut ignores me and then gets the craps at me...

do you think im complaining?

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utopiaSenior Contributor07 Mar 2017, 10:55 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

Absolutely

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 3:46 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

Such a disappointment. i dont know how i live with myself 😞 😞

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 4:04 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

how can i be such a disappointment to everyone at the age of 20..i dont really know how to fix it either 😞

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 5:09 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

Hi @Former-Member,

I always find the phrase 'just get over it' very hurtful and invalidating - it really minimises your experience and disregards the pain you're feeling. I can imagine it felt pretty hard to hear those words when you were genuinely reaching out for support. Remember, there's a big difference between complaining and expressing how you're feeling when you're going through something hard. All the things you have to deal with at the moment sound quite overwhelming, and I think anyone in your situation would feel like they want to talk to someone about it. Maybe it might be helpful to tell us a bit more about what's going on? We're always here to talk it through if you need.

Hope you're feeling better tonight.

supernova.

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 5:27 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

@Former-Member

i dont know what to do...

i dont think im worth listening to anymore anyway 😞

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 5:33 pm AEDT

Re: am i complaining too much? should i toughen up or just get over it?

@Former-Memberhow can i be such a dissapointment.
i get told to just get over it, stop complaining, you whinge alot, you complain alot which i never speak of anything wrong with me unless they genuinely need to no.
nothing is good atm. my mum and my sisters hate me which hurts the most, i can never do righ by them on any account. nothing i do is ever ggo enough.
my mum hates me and i can never please her.
i have no friends and the last ones that i did have they just pushed me away and said ring someone else.

the person im caring for probably thinks i do the crappiest job and i dont blame them..

everytime i even think about doing something for myself including apppointments i get shot down and then i guess i do it to myself so its like getting hit with two stones

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