Feeling like I'm not doing enough

Hey @cozy_726 ,

It sounds like your body is probably doing what it needs to? I totally hear you about job searching being a full time job in itself. It can be hectic.

Do you work 5 days? I wonder if you can break up the larger tasks into smaller goals and work that way? I find lists are very helpful for me, otherwise I tend to procrastinate if I see the same BIG project in front of me!

What I find helpful is that each night, I write out a plan of my next day so I can tackly things bit by bit. Oh, and of course I add incentives in there like going to grab a coffee or going for a walk if I finish XYZ. I find this helps me get started.

Another thing is (I'm not sure if this is similar), is that after 12 years of school, then another 3-5 years of uni.... a lot of people are BURNT OUT... it's not easy to sustain all this as well as life's pressures. Thoughts?

Anyway, great to see you here tonight!

First time hearing that sleep is a waste of time.

I wonder what your thoughts about this are @Rhymster ? You have Insomnia and I have sleep problems.

I don't think sleep is a waste of time.

Hi @cozy_726

You sound really exhausted

Spring can feel different for everyone, some of us are bright and full of spring energy and some are still emerging slowly from hibernation.

What matters most is listening to our bodies and giving ourselves what we need. How we start our day has a impact on how we set ourselves up for everything that follows.

For me, I find it helps to get up early and go for a walk, no phone or coffee, just walking and drinking water. By the time I get home, I feel alive, ahead of the day and energised by the sunrise. A health breakfast and I'm ready for my day. I also make sleep a priority by going to bed at the same time each night, no phone and in a dark room. When I don't get enough sleep, my mental health suffers, I get tired, less patient, and easily overwhelmed, especially when caring for my son,

I understand the feeling of 'wasting time' by sleeping, but I think society almost glorifies productivity in a way that overlooks how vital rest truly is. While we sleep, our bodies do so much to repair and restore, it's an essential process of the human body.

So please don't feel bad for giving yourself rest. Youre already working full time and managing a lot. Once your sleep pattern is regulated and you're feeling replenished, you'll have the energy to explore new job options and I'm sure this will happen for you. For now, maybe taking the pressure off and being kind to yourself may be the best thing you can do.

kindly alisse

@cozy_726 rest is not something we need to earn. Sleep is as important as breathing, and without it we won't even have the energy to do all the other things.

💜

@FearofUnknown sleep has it's benefits it just has never been my friend it doesn't visit me nearly enough

@cozy_726 burn out can be insidious like that, I think cos it comes on so slowly that by the time we're in it, we've gotten used to it so we register it as just our 'normal'.

Mental reset sounds choice!! I also find a bit of silliness and a bit of indulgence can go a long way too, hehe you get the chance to treat yourself!! 😋

Hi @cozy_726

Just checking in to see how you're doing?

Hope you're feeling less tired, more able to manage your daily commitments and are being kinder to yourself for making it through another day.

On the subject of burnout, sufficient sleep prevents mental and emotional exhaustion. It allows the brain to recharge, which helps prevent burnout. Sleep also helps lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol, this helps us cope better with daily pressures. Overall, we function better when we are well rested. We are more able to regulate our nervous system, handle adversity and challenges and maintain our sense of engagement in our daily lives.

Kindly alisse