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Crying again

CarebearSenior Contributor22 Sept 2025, 7:15 pm AEST

Crying again

TW: criticism and threats of violence

Hi, I'm back again.

Content/trigger warning

My partner is an ex-navy who has PTSD etc. The latest argument is that I keep stuffing up making dinner. I made Stir Fry tonight. He said it was (and I'm quoting him), Shit, where is the Olives, where is the broccoli, why are the vegetables so small.

I am so stupid. I shouldn't have followed the recipe which says to thinly slice the veges.

Sometimes I get the dinner 'good' and sometimes I get it 'shit'.

I can't seem to get it right 100 percent of the time. It's not good enough.

He has said that if I don't get it right that he will throw the dinner against the wall and that I will have to leave.

My partner is an ex-navy who has PTSD etc. The latest argument is that I keep stuffing up making dinner. I made Stir Fry tonight. He said it was (and I'm quoting him), Shit, where is the Olives, where is the broccoli, why are the vegetables so small.I am so stupid. I shouldn't have followed the recipe which says to thinly slice the veges. Sometimes I get the dinner 'good' and sometimes I get it 'shit'. I can't seem to get it right 100 percent of the time. It's not good enough.He has said that if I don't get it right that he will throw the dinner against the wall and that I will have to leave.

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CarebearSenior Contributor01 Dec 2025, 1:59 pm AEDT

Re: Crying again

@GalaxyGuide

Hi,

I've been sick the past few weeks but are on the mend (sinus issues).

Things have been steady except for when I assert my boundaries.

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CarebearSenior Contributor15 Dec 2025, 12:52 pm AEDT

Re: Crying again

@GalaxyGuide

This past Saturday was pretty crappy.

He got me a surprise SkyDive gift voucher as a Christmas present (I did ask for it).

When the time came, I freaked out and couldn't do it.

The car ride home was terrible. His point was that I chickened out therefor I am just full of excuses and that I am pathetic. He said that I should have trusted the Instructor. He said he will never do anything for me like this ever again and that there is a Snorkelling trip coming up which he booked ages ago that he said that I'm likely to not do that either (I've snorkelled many times and enjoy it). Also I am to forget my dream of doing the Kokoda Trail as I'm useless.

He is right in that I should've said 'No' to the SkyDive and I'll never ask anything from him again and will only rely on myself. He even tore up the Christmas Card he gave me.

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GalaxyGuideModerator15 Dec 2025, 1:36 pm AEDT

Re: Crying again

Hi @Carebear,

I'm so sorry to hear about how your Saturday went. Something like Skydiving, regardless if it's something you wanted to do, is really scary, and I think totally human to have second thoughts about it. You stayed true and listened to yourself when you didn't go through with it, and that's something to honor- I'm sorry your husband made you feel horrible about it.

I hope you can reach out to a few other services to continue getting support if you feel like you need it. Have you contacted Open Arms again?

Really wishing you some positivity coming into this festive season, and please reach out here whenever you need. We are all here for you 🤗

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