ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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How is everyone going
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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before I drive my family up the wall
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tymeModerator
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Look, I have my own opinion about alcohol and drugs. In my opinion, you're all the better for not doing it @ArraDreaming But I also know you are an adult, and the decisions you make are the ones you have to bear consequences for, so I'm not going to say go do it. Nor am I going to say not to do it. That's for you to decide.
I guess if you feel good about not drinking in the shed and smoking weed anymore, I'm totally here to celebrate with you! 🙂 I know how hard you are trying mate. And a lot of that is because you want to be a better person and be there for your children.
As for neural pathways, there's a saying "Those that fire together, wire together". Which means that the more you 'fire up' parts of your brain, the more they will connect so that things eventually become autopilot for you. Neurons are brain cells. So each time you use part of your brain, it fires up and the brain cells connects to send messages. The more these are used, the more active they are.
For a long time, my brain was mainly fired up on the emotional part of my brain. Which meant I naturally became a walking explosive emotional brain. Over time, through therapy, I 'fired' up other parts of my brain that I never really used before... so that now, it's second nature.
Nah, I won't go into all the science. Sorry I'm not making sense.
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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@tyme
Yeah, I reckon over a year? Not that it was a lot of use or often because it wasnt
I feel better for cutting down both and now only drink when there is an occasion or something like that, never just at home on my own anymore
I feel a lot better for it and my relationships are a lot better for it
I want to be actually PRESENT for my kids, the real me not someone influenced
Kids pick up that dad is acting different and they don’t know why
Its unpredictable and confusing for them
Nah it makes sense, brain cells hey, I thought I only had about 6 left???? @tyme
Yeah, I reckon over a year? Not that it was a lot of use or often because it wasnt
I feel better for cutting down both and now only drink when there is an occasion or something like that, never just at home on my own anymore
I feel a lot better for it and my relationships are a lot better for it
I want to be actually PRESENT for my kids, the real me not someone influenced
Kids pick up that dad is acting different and they don’t know why
Its unpredictable and confusing for them
Nah it makes sense, brain cells hey, I thought I only had about 6 left???? @tyme
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Did I tell you Mrs ADs car has “catastrophic engine failure” and they have quoted us 9k to get it fixed???
HOW ABOUT NO 😳
so that is a nightmare and 3/4 to manage hey @tyme
HOW ABOUT NO 😳
so that is a nightmare and 3/4 to manage hey @tyme
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tymeModerator
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Lol.. even if you only have 6 brain cells left, you can grow them. The more you use them, the more are created... just don't go blowing them by banging your head or drugging yourself!
I think I told you that my BIL was a heavy user? His brain has been damaged from it and he's on medication for the rest of his life.
You DON'T want that.
And yes, being there for your kids is the most important. You have first hand experience of what it's like not to have a present caregiver... these are learning opportunities. Things my parents couldn't provide, we want to provide for ou kids. It's fact. @ArraDreaming
But you are doing an amazing job. It's not easy, but we're with you on this.
Anyway, I've got some admin work to finish before I clock off tonight, so I'd better go. I'll see you tomorrow if you're on.
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Yeah I have seen that in my own family and people around me and I don’t want that @tyme
It’s one of the least “harmful” ones but I still would prefer not to go there because then you start getting into other things and it all goes downhill, believe me I know, first hand
(Don’t report me to CP I was a lot younger)
Yeah not sure what we’re doing tomorrow but I should get to bed too @tyme
I have an appointment tomorrow too
It’s one of the least “harmful” ones but I still would prefer not to go there because then you start getting into other things and it all goes downhill, believe me I know, first hand
(Don’t report me to CP I was a lot younger)
Yeah not sure what we’re doing tomorrow but I should get to bed too @tyme
I have an appointment tomorrow too
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tymeModerator
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All the best with the appt tomorrow. I'll catch you then @ArraDreaming
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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I’m hoping that Mrs AD will come with the 3 and we get a coffee after it’s my thing to look forward to at the end
And connecting with the community there
The kids really like it
And the office ladies at he front desk just love our kids and they hold the baby ❤️ @tyme
And connecting with the community there
The kids really like it
And the office ladies at he front desk just love our kids and they hold the baby ❤️ @tyme
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0ddsidianSenior Contributor
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Proud of you, @ArraDreaming. Were you overstimulated?
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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@0ddsidian at my kids thing?
Nah not really
Few people but it wasnt that packed
Nah not really
Few people but it wasnt that packed
