Despair *potential trigger: abuse*

Oh Karen,

Maybe it is time you seek out a new doctor, sometimes they become too comfortable wit hour situations, i know my old doctor become too apathetic to my way of living, he retired but when i do find a new doctor i hope they see things in a different light.

Karen please don't be scared to ge tthe girls, he probably will not be their and if he is , he will not even have remembered this mornings incident. you are safe, he will not hurt you, i know you can do it.

Karen be proud of the fact you made it to the GP, you will make it to get the girls. remember focus on the present not the future. mindfullness.

i am with you every step of the way

Hi @hiddenite

I'm so sorry to hear about the day you've had - it sounds like a few big things have happened today and are all stacking up and has caused an enormous amount of overwhelm for you.

I would agree with Jacques... you have done some very brave things today - including going to the GP. Did you let him/her know that you have stopped your medication?

It's really important that you consider your safety plan for today and tonight and perhaps a plan for the next couple of days? Will you work on this with us?

For today and tonight, it's really important that you contact a crisis service.

Lifeline: 13 11 14 or their online counselling

Suicide call back service: 1300 659 467 or their online counselling

Will you agree to contact one of those services?

If things have de-escalated, it might be worth at looking at some distractions for the rest of the day/night.

Some ideas that come to mind include:

- Reading back over some of the supportive responses members have provided you. Even a few posts above, I can see that Suzanne and Lisajane have posted some advice and encouragement - I'm not sure if you've seen it yet or not

- Checking out the Coping Box which is a thread people have contributed ideas on what they do when they are distressed and looking for distractions. Read more here

- Practice mindfulness. Check out this thread that Kristin started about mindfulness and how it can help reduce distress. Read more here

- Crafty stuff - I know you're currently working hard on creating those costumes for your daughter and her class

I'm also about to email you with more information.

We really care you about Karen, and are concerned for your wellbeing.

Will you take up one / some of those options above Karen?

Thanks for the response @hiddenite

Myself and I'm sure many others are sitting around the fire with you tonight. If you want more ideas on discussions you can visit or things you can do on the Forums, let us know - I'm sure others may have some tips

Hi @hiddenite my angel & @NikNik,

oooooh that fire looks nice, especially since it is 10 degrees here today, i nearly froze to death in the shed.

Good girl Karen, i am proud of you making it to the school, you should be proud of yourself for that. and i am glad you are reaching out.

how are the blankets going? how are my flowers going?

Well i have some good/bad news for you Karen, the pond i was telling you about, the 1.5 X 1.5 pond? well i am not putting it in anymore, mum has decided we are putting in a 5m X 9M pond in the back yard!!!!!! oh crap i have to make it now, she wants me to make a pegola sitting over the water and have a bridge running to it!!!!!!! oh no looks like it is going to be a big job, it is going to take up 1/3 of the yard. oh well, hey Karen i want some input from you, i am thinking of putting in some "rainbow roses", what do you think?

Well @hiddenite My angel,

not so much work as i lead on, we have an old pool, so i am removing the pool and the pond is going in the hole that is left, their is still a lot of work, lining, building the pegola,etc... will post some pics when i eventually get it done. i would love nothing more than to have you enjoy it with me.

With the roses, i am glad roses are your favourite, what do you think of the rainbow rose? should i plant some? i can't believe they make multicolour roses like that, i am in awe.

Well you are sounding a little better tonight, i am glad you are doing things with the girls, i feel a little ashamed asking this, what is mandalas? i have never heard of them.

you are so lucky with having girls to do these things with. do they enjoy it? it is good to give you girls some bonding time, just the three of you.

i hope all goes well with the mandalas, and you manage to settle a little, oh what essential oils do you have? where do you get it, i am wanting sto make some oils for my diffuser. i like the rose one and the lavender, and orange. what are your favourites?

ok Karen i will stop asking questions, i don;t want to take away quality time with the kids.

Take care my angel, hope to speak to you tonight but if not see you in the morning.

Jacques