Friday Coffee and Chat -- 8th August 2025

@PeppyPatti I can imagine it would be very triggering. You have done the right thing standing up to protect vulnerable people and call out the nasty behaviour of the “volunteer”.

Politicians are not good at resolving these things in my experience. It’s their job to help but they don’t and can even make things worse. I don’t trust them they also lie a lot and have caused a mess of our community.

That “volunteer” is calling people because that’s part of their rubbish behaviour. These sorts do not care if they hurt vulnerable people they are selfish and it’s all about them in their head.

Doesn’t matter what they say you are not attacking anyone. You are defending yourself and other vulnerable people and that is in my opinion the right thing to do.

I will try the meditation tonight when I’m in bed. Even if I can only do 5 minutes a week it is worth doing. Eventually might be able to do more. I can take it slowly. As you said nothing changes quickly so the small steps in right direction are a good place for me to start.

I like the Buddha story. Very wise words.

Dear @Cuddlebear

Ide be lying if I said I'm fine. The nightmare just doesn't end.

Now this volunteer - lives in a wealthy area and like telling everyone she's a lawyer has telephoned people living here to be turned against me.

I knew she was an awful person but

I'm not leaving my home. My guts hurt

My heart hurts

I feel sickened...............

The member of parliament wrote me this letter that he really wants to help ......and he met up with the person who I complained about. Then he saw me

Nothing

Hi @PeppyPatti, it sounds like today has been really hard for you.

I can hear that you're not getting the support you need... and not being able to leave home or feel comfortable out in the community would feel so vulnerable.

Is there anyone within your care network who you can turn to right now? Someone you really trust? 💛

I am very thankful hearing from you. I just feel very sick. I got the head of this committee feeling wonderful and cared for and listened to. We went out for dinner last night. She was laughing.

Now this woman who says she's a volunteer, has rung very vulnerable and stigmatized people to turn them against me. And guess what ? I didn't even write her name .....she's openly said she didn't think I have any intelligence .....( That's ok )

This whole experience has really affected me in the short term.

Hey @PeppyPatti ,

I'm sorry to hear about what happened.

It is understandable that you feel so ewww about the whole thing.

Do you have any support?

Of course, lovely! @PeppyPatti

That would be so, so hard.

Are you saying the head of the committee has been supporting you?

That isn't kind of her to say at all, I am sure this is all so confusing too... have there always been challenges with her, or only recently?

It's interesting that you say 'short term', this tells me that you know things will shift and change and that this feeling isn't forever. Am I understanding right? 💛

Dear @AuntGlow .

This is what happened.

I live in public housing in. A Very beautiful part of Perth.

About 6 months ago, I noticed the actual Head of a Committee where I live was being bullied by two people who call themselves volunteers.

I went to a few of these meetings and watched, I went to a few ' barbeques,' held by volunteers for the stigmatized where I live. Some volunteers are so kind and make a huge difference to many of the people who live here.

I spoke to the Head of the committee who let me know of the huge stress she's been put under because of these two volunteers.

I chose to write a letter to the Member of Parliament.

The Head of the Committee was crying saying no one ever has done something for her.

I outlined to the Member of Parliament that this lady should have her rent Paid because of all the work she's does plus included the bullying, written evidence and historical evidence that other people have had their rent paid who have done what she does.

It was going swimmingly well for one day before it all blew up in her and my face.

Both the volunteers immediately began confronting her demanding information. She is a very vulnerable lady so while I'm sending more information to the Member of Parliament - she's getting more impromptu visits from these two people.

Then they began accosting her during the day.

Then she collapsed, signed a paper discrediting my letter. But fortunately she had shown me the letter to discredit my letter and I turned up member of parliament and showed him that makes it null and void.

Of course, nothing happened.

One day she's, the Head of the committee was pretty hysterical. Her story is horrible ---- she starts drinking more. I felt ok, I'll telephone this one volunteer I know to visit her. He turned up heard what was happening and said, " I'm the head volunteer, leave it with me and I'll work out what to do. "

So she and I felt at last this is going to have a good ending.

One of the volunteers, I didn't even mention her name actually, telephoned people here telling them my name and I lie about her. And she didn't think I had the intelligence to write letters.

( I don't care but 🐱)

Then on Saturday she wrote a very aggressive letter to the poor woman who is Head of the Committee.

I'm getting messages how angry people are who live here. ( Gives people something to talk about )

I don't care about that it's just this situation where I these two volunteers want credit and .................... To talk about how wealthy they are.

It just is a nightmare because how vulnerable I am

It will blow over but at the end of the day I'm concerned for .....she's become my friend.i guess. My husband and I took her out for dinner last night.

....it was a horrible situation she was dealing with to this.

I'v felt like vomiting and can't do much ......the stress has been horrible.

The member of Parliament has disappeared.

Hey hun @PeppyPatti ,

I can see how triggering this whole situation is. For now, is there anything you can do tonight, at this moment to 'fix' the issue?

If not, is there a way to look after yourself so you have your own wellbeing looked after?

Dear @tyme

I'm okay. I'm very proud of myself iv like ' chatted,' what's happening with my husband but not made a drama about it in our home.

If I'm here forever, I feel secure in that today I'll be chatted about -- tomorrow ignored.

There are some scary people here but that's like everywhere.

May I ask - this one particular volunteer who is calling people here does nothing. She goes on and on she has a University degree and where she lives but why has she been able to stir up this frenzy about me ??

@Shaz51 @tyme @Aunty @AuntGlow @NightFury @Cuddlebear @TAB

I think it's triggering because these two volunteers remind me of my past when everything I did or said was twisted and turned by the person I loved.

But I felt ..... This is nothing what I've had to deal with in the past. This is like a walk in the park.

@tyme @AuntGlow @Shaz51 @Cuddlebear @NightFury @TAB dating dillema