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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I am really not doing so well & I am struggling. I can't seem to function too well atm. I am shutting down. I saw my psych today, and she doesn't think doing exercise science is going to be good choice to study because there is not much work available in this field.
I am not able to articulate too well, what is happening for me. I am just exhasuted and scared and alone.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@oceangirl I mean what course (if any) you would be most engaged in, be able to handle the workload and feel like you are leading towards something.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Oh sis 
You really are stuck. This is so hard for you. I wish I could make you feel better and help you come to a decision that is right for you. All I can do is hold your hand and be here for you.
@oceangirl hugging you close right now to comfort you
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
You are a pretty awesome landmark though!!! 
@oceangirl
Physics and chemistry can be worked through - they are defintiely two subjects I can help out with - bit of a science nut (just to add to all the other weird things I enjoy). If you are ok at Maths then physics and chemistry won't be as challenging as you think.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
and being a very visual person @oceangirl that will really help with both of those subjects!
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hi @oceangirlI listened to the "Lean on Me" link
I like a bit of blues but was not really familiar with it
but next on youtube was "Oh Happy Day"
shit I have these memories of a festival .. where cool afroamerican husband & wife academics and musicians ran it .. I wasnt well connected to my upbeat side .. still going throught shit .. and the conductor dude .. who had also done conducting masterclass with me .. gave me "the Look" .. when my Oh Happy day .. wasnt matching up with enthisiastic smile .. such serene godlike dissappointment . and I had to dig a smile up from somewhere ... in me big toe
sorry .. digression
starting to brainstorm helps us isolate the issues ..wasting fees is an issue to me .. though I would take on an expensive course if it was going to be "worth it" ..
formal study is off my agenda for a while .. because I have actually hidden behind .. getting quals and study and structure of large institutions ... for a lot of my life ..
this year .. is about my rhythms .. my life ..my feelings dealing with legal stuff .. getting son off & running .. having a good time .. finding all the good legal things that I enjoy and are possible within my constraints .. getting a big bucket list written .. so I have too many things to do ...to get down in the dumps .. not rushing .. smelling roses
When our parents are not well .. somehow the sense of pressure can escalate ..
@oceangirl re counsellor .. maybe you can raise the point about nursing with her next time .. to check her intention .. awareness .. in making the suggestion .. it is a safe common one .. was she just meaning it as an option in passing .. was she just ignorant of the field you were thinking of ..
I knew another young woman .. who trained at the institute of sport .. top stuff .. she was great and her and partner started a gym .. slowly .. first got some clientiele thru one on one sessions.. and then hired the space ..I'm an old lady .. and also have a 25 year career as a rehab patient/client .. seen a bit .. felt a bit ouch ..
write down a few other things you might want clarified or values you want a therapist to hold ... no therapist is perfect .. but if they send you on the wrong path .. or casue you to doubt a good and proper path for you .. then .. that loses a lot of points.
I was ok with maths .. there are often nerdy types in many courses that are quite happy to help in those areas .. its how I got to ride around in a porsche ...
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