Losing my daughter to mental health disturbance

Hey @tyme Long time my friend. Sadly my girls mental health has continued to deteriorate. Self medicating with various substances is now a big part of the problem and we’re now at 6 years since seeing her. She is so physically unwell now as well. Still refusing face to face contact. My heart aches. Has all supports in place so I have some comfort knowing there are people keeping an eye out. Haven’t been on forums much of late and feeling quite isolated with this pain 🙏

Hugs @Krishna ,

Thank you so much for the update. I hear your pain and as a mother, I can see why your heart yearns for her. She is your daughter and always will be. I'm sorry to hear she is so so unwell due to substances. At the same time, I can see that knowing she has supports in place can be comforting.

You mentioned she refuses face to face contact. Does that mean she contacts you using other methods?

Sitting with you my sister. I appreciate you popping in. Hugs.

Hi @tyme Yes my girl will dm or txt but only for money nothing more sadly. I stopped sending money quite some time ago as a) it would enable her habit and b) simply can’t afford it. When I can I organise an online food delivery but really not sure whom I’m actually feeding as so many coming and going from her abode. I’m hoping at least someone is benefiting and that it doesn’t go to waste. It’s been so long now and she has changed so much in the way she communicates with me, it worries me to think who I’ll actually meet if we ever connect physically again. 🙏

Ohh hugs 🫂 @Krishna

Sounds wise in that you send her food rather than money @Krishna .

I hope you can continue to hold on and keep hoping. As I've mentioned in the past, I disconnected from my parents for about 10 years because I needed space to heal. I knew they were there for me, but I just wasn't ready to see/talk to them.

However, when I was in a better place, I was able to reach out again and reconnect. After following your posts, I can only imagine how stressed my parents must've been to not hear from me for a decade.

My heart goes out to you.

Keep hoping.

Thank you @tyme @Shaz51. You both know my story so well. I think my girl is so emotionally detached now that connection doesn’t mean the same to her as it does me. I will cling to the hope of that connection happening one day. Meanwhile she has a roof over her head, NDIS, DSP and carers keeping an eye on things. Hope you’re both warmer than me up on my mountain village 🥶❤️🙏

Holding you in our prayers @Krishna . We will continue to cling onto hope. Please look after yourself.

she has a roof over her head, NDIS, DSP and carers keeping an eye on things. ---- this is good my sister @Krishna

and I hope one day your daughter will connect with you again xx

we sent money to our kids and hope that they spend it where they said they needed it

@howcanwehelp63 , @tyme , @AuntJobiska , @Appleblossom

Gentle hugs @Krishna I remember you from way back. Sorry about your daughter’s substance use, but glad she has some security and support. Like you I have long been careful about giving money too easily when it is not going to be well spent. Mostly in the form of charity not to family. Good on you for providing food though, maybe you will make a difference for her and in someone’s life, even if you don’t realise it. All the little acts of kindness in the world matter. I am grateful for any acts of kindness in my life.

Sadly, I have lost a daughter due to mental disturbances in the family. So I do know a somewhat similar grief and heartache. Our situation is very different, as many people had mental health challenges in the family historically, and neither of my children are interested in substance use. Their father and the mother of my stepdaughter were interested. Hmmm. Somehow with the extended and blended family shenanigans. My biological children were torn apart. Long story. Not their fault. I had Complicated family of origin and family of creation.

Anyway sending gentle healing energy.

@Shaz51 @howcanwehelp63 @tyme @AuntJobiska