Car Accident recovery

Hey @EightyIX

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Car accidents are terrifying and difficult to recover from, how are you going with your physical recovery? I know the mental recovery feels like a bigger hurdle at times.

I was in a 5 car collision 3 years ago, was the front vehicle and treated for whiplash in my neck and shoulders, along with my lower back in conjunction with the pre-existing arthritis. I drive a manual and the shock of the impact radiated through my wrists and left ankle due to the pressure on the clutch.

I can remember a lot about the accident but it wasn't my first trauma.

It is not uncommon to have memory difficulties after a traumatic event, it's just your mind trying to protect you from the extreme nature of what occurred.

Is it bugging you that you can't remember?

I had a very traumatic childhood and upbringing that I couldn't remember anything from my childhood, I had all these habits and protective mechanisms but I had no idea why. I had this massive blank up until my 20's that I used to get angry that I couldn't remember. I wanted to remember.

Then one day I did, just an aisle in the supermarket and an image that turned into a memory that turned into a flashback and nightmares and seizures.

I don't know how much a brain can erase trauma as much as it can lock it away, but I do know that it doesn't always stay that way.

Thanks for the reply @avant-garde appreciate it.

my physically recovery is still ongoing, with lots of different broken bones to heal and learning to live with these different ailments.

I too believe I have some trauma from my past as I cannot remember a chunk of my childhood, I am not sure what it’s from and not sure how to unlock that stuff without thinking that I am manifesting a fake reality, if that makes sense.

my biggest hurdle has been accepting that my body isn’t the same and that I can’t do what I use to be able to do. Can’t chase after the kids or muster the energy for long periods of time. It’s all a work in progress.

@EightyIX

I can't relate to the broken bones but I have internal scarring and aged joints that come from it and it is a battle to adjust to a new normal because everything you can't do reminds you of why you can't do it.

In terms of the manifesting, I'm not in a stable enough place to talk about that part of my recovery because it's a bit more complicated for me, but it's completely normal. I found a lot of therapists wouldn't touch my missing childhood but would treat the symptoms of it.

Acceptance will take time but grief needs to come first. This may seem stupid but grieving for what you can no longer do will help you come to accept it