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Contemplating leaving the forums

Contemplating leaving the forums

It’s been so lovely being on the forums, but I’m not sure if I am welcome on here. I will miss you all. I have learnt a lot from you all, I hope you’ve been able to learn something from me

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Agreed. Even if we try so hard not to be like our parents, we sometimes just end up like them @creative_writer

I guess I always have to have it in my mind that if i don't like how my life is heading, I need to pluck up the courage to change it.

And also, I focus on the things in my life that i CAN control as opposing to 'wasting' my energy worrying about things I can't control/change (including my past and my mistakes).

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@tyme I try not to take certain characteristics of my parents, but I do sometimes end up taking them. At the end of the day I have my own opinions, and I’ve had to fight for it before. It’s so damn exhausting, but I did it. Like it took so much out of me, so much sweat and tears to finally get mental health support. I wasn’t allowed to see a therapist at 17. I don’t think they have ever felt comfortable about the idea. I don’t tell them much about my sessions. They eventually caved in once I turned 18. The pressure to conform has been a long one.

It is very hard to change the need to conform, and I know it’s realistically going to take time. It may take a a number of thought entries and working on improving my own self worth. I know self worth shouldn’t be based on other people’s opinions, and everyone has intrinsic self worth. It just isn’t something that can be fixed quickly
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