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creative_writerSenior Contributor
It’s been so lovely being on the forums, but I’m not sure if I am welcome on here. I will miss you all. I have learnt a lot from you all, I hope you’ve been able to learn something from me
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MissGremlinSenior Contributor
@creative_writer here for you, even if it's just to sit with you ❤️.
My puppy is 11 weeks old 😊
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
@creative_writer wrote:
Delete this is this isn’t okay to post. I want to make sense of these thoughts. One part tells me I was to blame for the trauma and that people will see me as damaged and broken. The other part says I didn’t do anything wrong. I need to somehow resolve this conflict, because I think this conflict is keeping me stuck. I’m struggling to undo societal expectation learning. But at the same time I know that the wrong people’s opinions don’t matter. I’m so confused. I can keep challenging unhelpful thought but I end up confused. Am I doing something wrong? Am I not trying hard enough? I want to know what I need to do. Does anything help anyone when they get conflicting thoughts like this about their trauma?
Thank you for your post. This post to absolutely okay.
I recognise yesterday was a difficult day, but please know we are here to support you. @creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hey @creative_writer ,
You know we really appreciate you here, right? PLease don't feel we are trying to push you away.
As for conflicting beliefs, are you referring to religious? or cultural? Or something else altogether? Because yes, I've had a lot of challenges with conflicting religious and cultural beliefs.
When I look back now though, my brain was just going round and round in circles. It did not make any improvements by overthinking. Rather, it became a habit that I was stuck in for 10 years. However, once I started the process of breaking that vicious cycle, I haven't gone back since. So I don't think it was the actual issue of conflicting beliefs, but rather, a habit I'd fallen into and needed help to get out of.
I'm not sure I'm making sense @creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hearing you. And yes, the cultural and religious can be linked but they are not the same @creative_writer .
From what you are sharing, it sounds like you feel like you are living in the shadows of the expectations of others - and that is a burden. Is that fair to say?
I'm not saying you have to do this to feel well, but for me, i learnt pretty early that I don't need to please people. This meant the burden of conforming to society was lifted off my shoulders.
Yet I cannot judge others because I know people live in microcosms that are not the same as mine.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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